This is so relatable, I have it the same way with my spouse, I really do not understand how they can not see the spots, I appreciate the work an effort, but I also know I have to check every plate and glass I take from the cupboard before I use it...
We have a dishwasher so dishes, glasses, utensils, etc. are always clean. But pots and pans have to be washed by hand and that's where I find places that hubby missed when he "washed" them. He's getting better at it. I wish he'd stop wiping his dirty hands on the dishtowel, though. Wash hands first, then use the towel to dry off!