"If you're...." and then I stopped reading. I'm not a grammar nazi at all, but if companies try to come across as "stylish" by restricting stuff, I don't know if faulty grammar will adress anyone interested in going there.
That being said... dresscodes. It's something that haunts me for over 15 years now.
That started out when I was halfway in my teens and I got in trouble over shirts I wore in high school. I got sent home and expected to return with "less offensive" things. That went on day in, day out at some point (up to the point where shirts that were previously ok, all of a sudden weren't). That ended up in the local newspaper, then went national... and almost on tv. I wrote about it in another thread a while ago here.
Later in life, I got in trouble at college where teachers weren't ok with "my look". There, teachers didn't mind what my shirts said or depicted, there, they had an issue over so called "bodily embelishments". In my early 20's I sported about a dozen or so, facial piercings... and that, was an issue.
Much later, as recent as 2 years ago, I was denied entrance to pubs and bars because of my looks. An owner asked if I was a bit early for our national dress up festivities (much like halloween, just less scary and in the beginning of the year). That ended up in an argument. His argument was that my appearance might make people want to leave. I never went back there again. And only a year before that I got denied entrance while going out with 2 friends. The bouncer just stopped me before entering and nodded no... my friends tried to argue with him, but I didn't even care about it. I was slightly irate. There was no reason why I was denied even, and a lot of bouncers (at least here) will not even argue with words... you'll end up getting punched in the face.
And in those cases, that are more recent, it wasn't because it was some kind of outrageous shirt I was wearing. I had a hoodie on, so little would they know. Better yet, I didn't have such a shirt on me then. Apparently some clubs and/or bouncers make a fuss if you look a bit "different". God forbid you have your lip pierced once, or your hair is styled like a little mohawk (and it wasn't even that I had my head shaven or anything... if anything it could pass as a Beckham style "fauxhawk" even).
The thing that irks me most about dresscodes is the vagueness of the rules.
Looking at the link provided;
no excessively baggy clothing, no clothing with offensive writing.... what's excessive and what's offensive? Apparently some people get offended if your shirt says something clever they don't understand, since they get offended by you making them look stupid. The dresscode rules even have a rather silly oxymoron; Long shorts? What the? Quite sure that if I go there in speedo's it's not ok either.
Similarly, I encountered one club over here that in fact has a sign up stating "dress suitably". What is suitably? Does that mean I have to dress to current trends? Quite sure that if I'm a 30 year old dressing like a 15 year old, they'll tell me "you're overdressed", and that doesn't fit likewise.
Somehow I feel that the entire "dresscode" thing, especially in contemporary settings like clubs and bars, as well as "dresscodes" for jobs and schools might be a problem for aspies even. I don't think it's a wrong "assumption" that a lot of us don't really care, nor put thought in, dressing as flashy as possible FOR OTHERS. I dress A. because it's an social understanding that we wear clothes and B. because... I like to look good, and therefore wear what I want to wear, not what I should wear.
If any place wants to enforce dresscodes, make uniforms mandatory.
And yet I return back to "the vagueness of rules". If there are rules, I want to understand why they are. Much like denial at a club, one could state; you look different, and we don't know if our regular "kind of people" will tolerate that, and this might cause problems. That would be the marketing explanation; but in fact they're saying "we run a club with intolerant people, and we see no problem in excluding others".
Aspies and vagueness :rolleyes2:
/rant
