Emotion of happiness

[daniegirl6224]

Is there anyone on here who doesn’t understand the emotion of happiness? I’m asking because I’m autistic and don’t understand anger… and I think my dad might be autistic and not comprehend happiness. Curious if that is a thing…

 

[RemyZee]

I understand happiness but anger is incredibly confusing to me. I basically don't get angry except very very rare occasion, and even then it's like I don't comprehend it. I don't ever feel it in myself physically the way I do with joy or happiness.

 

[daniegirl6224]

I understand happiness but anger is incredibly confusing to me. I basically don't get angry except very very rare occasion, and even then it's like I don't comprehend it. I don't ever feel it in myself physically the way I do with joy or happiness.

I can completely relate to everything you said

 

[daniegirl6224]

I understand happiness but anger is incredibly confusing to me. I basically don't get angry except very very rare occasion, and even then it's like I don't comprehend it. I don't ever feel it in myself physically the way I do with joy or happiness.

Personal question- have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has anger issues? I absolutely adore my partner but he gets really upset a lot… and I just cannot understand or relate. I try to be empathetic, but really I don’t understand. Curious if you have been in a similar situation.

 

[FayetheAspie]

I definitely understand being able to feel happy. In fact, I tend to get frequent burst of euphoric mood. I don't really feel comfortable around people when they are angry. I am capable of being angry but apparently people think that I should get angry about a lot of things that I don't.

 

[daniegirl6224]

I definitely understand being able to feel happy. In fact, I tend to get frequent burst of euphoric mood. I don't really feel comfortable around people when they are angry. I am capable of being angry but apparently people think that I should get angry about a lot of things that I don't.

I can relate to that- that people think I should be mad about something and I’m not

 

[RemyZee]

Personal question- have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has anger issues? I absolutely adore my partner but he gets really upset a lot… and I just cannot understand or relate. I try to be empathetic, but really I don’t understand. Curious if you have been in a similar situation.

I've been in a similar situation and once it seemed like it was his anger issue I was out of there. I have a hard time being around even people who are slightly angry and see it as weakness. There are moments when it's justified and there's righteous anger, but anger that drives a person bothers me.

 

[lunarious]

Personal question- have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has anger issues? I absolutely adore my partner but he gets really upset a lot… and I just cannot understand or relate. I try to be empathetic, but really I don’t understand. Curious if you have been in a similar situation.

Males ≠ Females

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By natural causes:
- females have more compassion than males.
- Males have more anger.

Why is that?​

To an inexperienced eye this means females are better than males. But males will have to accept Ladies are preserve God's words and ... females are closer to Mercy since they are calm.

In Arabic there are degrees of certainty, we say:
1. Knowledge of Certainty
2. Eye of Certainty
3. Truth of Certainty

If i spend my life like a Royalty, i'll be a Royalty. The question God will ask me, through my concience and through my adulthood, when i'm in my later life or the next life (for those whom want to Believe): Why didn't you Mustafa as a male retaliate when they attacked you? Why did you offer The Ladies under your protection to the perpetrators, to save yourself pain? I can't say because I had compassion with my perpetuator, because females have compassion. Men have anger.

Men dream of a good Death.

This is True because you learn this from any teacher, like mats or electronics. The females duty will be to encompass the situation with knowledge, calmly. The man is supposed to be angry sometimes, but it's not a game. Old men and children are forgiven their weakness.

I can't express myself well, as Royalty is a religious thing.

 

[lunarious]

I've been in a similar situation and once it seemed like it was his anger issue I was out of there. I have a hard time being around even people who are slightly angry and see it as weakness. There are moments when it's justified and there's righteous anger, but anger that drives a person bothers me.

Anger is NEVER good.

The Deity has written on himself: My Mercy will overpower my Anger.

Edit: I'm a very naugty boy .... no, nothing ...

 

[Shamar]

Is there anyone on here who doesn’t understand the emotion of happiness? I’m asking because I’m autistic and don’t understand anger… and I think my dad might be autistic and not comprehend happiness. Curious if that is a thing…

I have written about this several times before, but since you are new, here we go again. One of my comorbidities is alexithymia. This translates as "No words for feelings." I do have feelings and emotions, but mostly I don't know what they mean. I recognize some feelings as good, some as bad, and the majority as confusing.

I grew up like this, so it was normal for me. What confused me was seeing that everybody else I knew seemed to know what their feelings meant. This is one of the reasons my autism diagnosis was such a relief, I finally understood why I was different. I obviously can't help you understand your emotions, since I barely understand some of mine. However, what you describe is not uncommon here.

 

[Misty Avich]

I understand all emotions.

 

[AuAL]

I think I know what “happy” is, I just don’t know how to get there.

 

[lunarious]

I think I know what “happy” is, I just don’t know how to get there.

If your happines means other people are miserable, technically, then you can't be happy.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Personal question- have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has anger issues? I absolutely adore my partner but he gets really upset a lot… and I just cannot understand or relate. I try to be empathetic, but really I don’t understand. Curious if you have been in a similar situation.

"Grumpiness" in adult males can also be an expression of depression and/or low testosterone, especially in those over 35. However, to add to what @lunarious suggested, although men and women have a lot of crossovers in terms of their personality traits, it's at the extremes of the bell curves where we see that the most aggressive and disagreeable people are males and the most passive, altruistic, and agreeable people are females. Part of that is natural selection that goes back millennia, part of that being testosterone/estrogen balance, part of that being the social construct that expression of male emotions is considered a weakness and/or our feelings don't matter. Males are often taught from early childhood that we do things out of a sense of duty, honor, and discipline and if we are not taught that, those men who act from a source of emotion are very dangerous or undesirable individuals (rapists, murderers, domestic abusers, thieves, adulterers, lazy, etc. the men who put the "toxic" in masculinity.) On the other hand, men who have been taught the virtues of responsibility, duty, honor, and discipline will often be the ones who will support their wife and family even in the presence of unhappiness, whereas, statistically, women will leave their husbands if they are unhappy. Many men spend an entire life of pushing down emotion and working on our self-control and discipline yet still feeling emotions deep inside. There can be steep consequences for men who act upon their emotions.

Furthermore, and this is a very common phenomenon, that as much as our female partners desire to know what we are feeling, when it comes out that what we feel is pent up anger and frustration (almost always), that our female partners become quite defensive, angry, scared, and/or generally upset to the point of tears. Of course, our response at this point is to be put into a position where we have to console and apologize, and our emotions are never validated, but often rejected, and we are then accused of being horrible people. So, the people who we love the most become the very last people we would ever consider being vulnerable and showing our emotions to. The loving women in our lives are often the hardest on us.

In the business world, the same thing. Emotional neutrality and control are desirable leadership characteristics. If someone "loses it" emotionally, there will be an immediate loss of respect, if not even disciplinary action or termination.

 

[Alexej]

@daniegirl6224
I do not really experience happiness. However, I can be angry.

You might want to have a look at something called alexithymia - which seems to be quite prevalent among autistic folks. If it makes any sense to you then you could pursue the topic - and if it does not fit - then move on to another line of enquiry.

 

[lunarious]

@daniegirl6224
I do not really experience happiness. However, I can be angry.

You might want to have a look at something called alexithymia - which seems to be quite prevalent among autistic folks. If it makes any sense to you then you could pursue the topic - and if it does not fit - then move on to another line of enquiry.

I would say:
1. avoid lust
2. seek knowledge


Edit: This is my personal rule. I don't know if it fits you.

 

[Outdated]

I understand and I'm quite in touch with my own emotions but I'm often adversely affected by other people's emotions, especially anger and aggression. I also have superb hearing which doesn't help.

Other people being angry or aggressive causes me a great deal of stress. If I can hear a couple having a domestic argument a few streets away it drives me crazy. I want to run away, I want to hide, I want to cry.

When I'm personally involved it's a different matter, I still get just as stressed and freaked out but I'm also in a position to change the situation. I live in between two alcoholics with anger management issues, they soon learned to tone it down near me because I'm the scariest creature in these woods.

 

[Mary Terry]

I think I know what “happy” is, I just don’t know how to get there.

You can experience happiness in the tiniest of things. A nice cup of hot coffee or tea on a cold day, a beautiful sunset or sunrise, a rich Belgium chocolate popped into your mouth, a flock of noisy seagulls fighting over a little fish on a beach. I try to see and feel the happiness of small things and small moments every day.

 

[Boogs]

Fairly sure I'm alexithymic, most likely both types (congenital and male normative), just for good measure, and I'm rarely/never aware of being happy, the emotions I can best detect are frustration and anger which seem to be the same thing except for intensity. I'm couldn't come close to knowing some feelings myself, the others I couldn't describe to anyone else.

Sadness is a tough one. I can feel the sadness of empathy towards others who suffer, but for myself it's much harder to say what's sadness and what's depression, and I'm not sure depression is classed as an emotion.

Is happiness the same as pleasure, or euphoria? I think the very nearest positive emotion I can get to understanding or even experiencing (or at least perceiving) is satisfaction. The satisfaction of solving something in a meaningful way, especially elegant concepts, solutions and designs, is one of the few pleasures I'm aware of.

I can enjoy a sensation, but I can barely describe it beyond the mundanely literal. It's more like a closed circuit that's working as it should, more another form of satisfaction than happiness as such.

Achieving something that had poor odd's at a good outcome is a little nearer to happiness, but still more the relief of not failing, or of not having to redo something, etc. Not really happiness as best I can tell.
Or maybe, could that be what happiness is?
And my expectations are unreal?

 

[Richelle-H]

I have problems with the word happy. I find that the state of happiness is a vaguely defined feeling that I am quite certain I have never experienced. Excitement? Yes! Complacency? On occasion! Comfortable? Most of the time!

My view might possibly be explained by many things from my past, but, if I am being honest and truthful, I do not know what happy is because the world keeps intruding. That results in a lot of shaking of the head, which at my age is problem enough to deny me any semblance of happiness due to an increasingly deteriorating substructure.