Emotional Meltdowns

[DebzD21]

Over last 2days I've been having meltdowns and it's the first it's happened in a while
I had one earlier because my dad tried to make me food I didn't want

I tend to scream and cry the house down mainly but today I lashed out which rarely happens I've hit myself on the head in the past

I wonna know how does everyone on here cope if you have a meltdown?

 

[Warwick C]

Sorry I can not help you Debby, but once the forum becomes more active there may be some help then.
May be in a couple of hours?

You may help others by posting this thread, so you can be pleased about that.

 

[Warwick C]

Debbie I just want to appologise for mis-spelling your name, I feel you deserve that repect. For me I feel ccalling a person by their name (if I know it) is giving them the respect they are due.

 

[DebzD21]

That's okay
And hopefully someone will be able to reply

 

[MoCoffee]

Would it be possible for you to go for a walk when you feel a meltdown coming on? This was what I would do when I got angry, because I cry when I'm angry and I hate that. A good brisk walk gives me time to calm down. I went for a lot of walks when I was married. lol

 

[Judge]

Wondering if my stim helps prevent meltdowns? Haven't had one in a long time. But my stim.....I manage a few times a week. Pacing....usually around my sofa.

Anger, frustration, deep in thought....but I work it out that way.

There's a good thread on stimming here somewhere...

 

[Arashi222]

um been known to cry hysterically and stomp my feet. Usually I try to head toward the bathroom if I am at work and cry there away from people. But I try to head them off by leaving the environment that is making me stressed to the point of meltdown. Sometimes there is no escape...then I tend to get more hysterical and snappish and have on occasion slapped myself in the face or hit myself on the head including head banging on the wall or floor depending on what is nearest.

 

[Ruire]

Have never had a meltdown, I have mutism and shut downs. I can't act, moving is hard, I get reduced vision, (the edges go black). Online though, i still get the ability to type, so I tend to online rage at people. It is my one way to communicate how rotten I feel. I sometimes go overboard... I know my emotions are not in scale with what actually happened, but it doesn't make it better.

I make myself sick with it... I feel ill, i feel like biting someone and drawing blood, tearing out their throat, I feel like bawling and puking.



iv tried making myself act, tried punching a pillow. It did nothing... if anything it was worse because i wanted it to help relieve some of what i felt, but it did nothing, so then I was disappointed and frustrated. My feelings make me want to lash out at ANYTHING in ANYWAY, but my physical reaction is to shut down, and moving to do anything takes great effort, motivation and concentration.

 

[DebzD21]

Would it be possible for you to go for a walk when you feel a meltdown coming on? This was what I would do when I got angry, because I cry when I'm angry and I hate that. A good brisk walk gives me time to calm down. I went for a lot of walks when I was married. lol

I do tend to walk to the shop sometimes, sometimes I don't get to do that since there's lots of rain here

 

[DebzD21]

um been known to cry hysterically and stomp my feet. Usually I try to head toward the bathroom if I am at work and cry there away from people. But I try to head them off by leaving the environment that is making me stressed to the point of meltdown. Sometimes there is no escape...then I tend to get more hysterical and snappish and have on occasion slapped myself in the face or hit myself on the head including head banging on the wall or floor depending on what is nearest.

I see what you mean by no escape sometimes it happens to me, I get snappy too when one is coming on and I've hit myself in the head too and I've punched walls before,
hopefully people understand when it happens to you

 

[DebzD21]

Have never had a meltdown, I have mutism and shut downs. I can't act, moving is hard, I get reduced vision, (the edges go black). Online though, i still get the ability to type, so I tend to online rage at people. It is my one way to communicate how rotten I feel. I sometimes go overboard... I know my emotions are not in scale with what actually happened, but it doesn't make it better.

I make myself sick with it... I feel ill, i feel like biting someone and drawing blood, tearing out their throat, I feel like bawling and puking.



iv tried making myself act, tried punching a pillow. It did nothing... if anything it was worse because i wanted it to help relieve some of what i felt, but it did nothing, so then I was disappointed and frustrated. My feelings make me want to lash out at ANYTHING in ANYWAY, but my physical reaction is to shut down, and moving to do anything takes great effort, motivation and concentration.

I've raged at people online too lol, but it's good to see what other people are like if they don't have meltdowns

 

[Laughingowl1975]

Have never had a meltdown, I have mutism and shut downs. I can't act, moving is hard, I get reduced vision, (the edges go black). Online though, i still get the ability to type, so I tend to online rage at people. It is my one way to communicate how rotten I feel. I sometimes go overboard... I know my emotions are not in scale with what actually happened, but it doesn't make it better.

I make myself sick with it... I feel ill, i feel like biting someone and drawing blood, tearing out their throat, I feel like bawling and puking.



iv tried making myself act, tried punching a pillow. It did nothing... if anything it was worse because i wanted it to help relieve some of what i felt, but it did nothing, so then I was disappointed and frustrated. My feelings make me want to lash out at ANYTHING in ANYWAY, but my physical reaction is to shut down, and moving to do anything takes great effort, motivation and concentration.

I know the feeling Ruire, when I feel one coming on I have little means of escape but when it hits, I can't lash out or scream even when I need too. Its like my body is seizing up, the best I can do is push shopping trolleys as hard as I can against the walls or stomp off to a quiet spot and then my arms go stiff and I cant move them for a bit. Usually everything becomes unreal like my mind can't process anything rather than tunnel vision, and then this wave of utter rage hits me and all I can see is red and violent thoughts fill my head for a few minutes. I can't do anything when I am like that, I feel stiff and so enraged about every little thing, then I relax and the tears start flowing (I don't cry out loud or hysterically even though I want too) and after a few more minutes I suddnly go back to normal like a switch has been thrown, I work well after one of these 'mini meltdowns' but I feel zombie-like and usually have a feeling of pressure in my head or even a headache not to mention feeling sleeping.

 

[tridianprime]

I too need to help this because i get very violent when it happens.

 

[tridianprime]

A strategy i came up with is plainly avoid loud noises and tell people not to touch me as that sets me off. Also, its good to be able to know when the storm is coming.

 

[Warwick C]

I would think knowing what are your warning signs would be a help.

 

[Bruce]

I have meltdowns usually to do with things that upset my plans or catch me unawares.
I hate unreliable people.
Noone ever gives me the full picture and I don't like surprises.
I explode and my wife tells me I get a terrible look in my eyes.
I have a very loud Drill sargents voice when I'm angry which makes it worse.
I don't choose to be angry
because most times I am quite happy.
I just hate being let down time and time again by people who I thought cared for me.
That's enough negativity from me.