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Ex-friends on my mind again

Markness

Markness

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Two former friends have been on my mind lately. I still haven’t “gotten over them” even though many years have passed since I last ever talked to them. That’s because I am still struggling with the issues they disliked and ended the friendships they had with me over.
 
I had so called friends I lost over 20 years ago that abandoned me when they coupled up and got married. They said right to me that they rather hang out with couples. That's why I wasted 15 years of my life doing nothing. I thought 4 years and 8 months socializing and joining seven groups would lead to a relationship but I am still single.
 
I still miss the anime otaku friends I had 25 years ago who decided to disown me when I came out of the closet.

Losing friends happens to everybody. Not saying this to dismiss how you are feeling, just letting you know you are on board with humanity.
 
I lost a lot of friends after my divorce. Sure, it made me angry-sad, but I got over it. Ghosting them ranks among the best decisions I ever made, because some of them tried to re-contact me after I had gotten back on my feet financially, just to suck up and 'borrow' money from me.

Friends who abandon you, especially in your times of greatest need, were never really your friends in the first place.
 
Why is it ok for others to treat me badly? And why am I in the wrong if I stand up for myself?
 
Markness said:
Why is it ok for others to treat me badly? And why am I in the wrong if I stand up for myself?
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Are these things you tell yourself?
Are these things you heard from someone else?

It's difficult to imagine anyone telling you that is okay for others to treat you badly. Perhaps, this is one of those negative stories that you tell yourself. Maybe you could tell yourself something different.
 
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