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Exchanging numbers. Is it the right time?

Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

Single Aspie
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I have exchange numbers with girls I been friends with for years like one that originally came up to me and we talked on and off. I finally asked if we can text each other. Another from life group I have asked casually.

What I am asking is I met this woman on Sunday. I went up to her and talked to her. I asked her name, I said my name. We talked for quite a while and she did not even lose interest in talking to me. At the end of our long conversation I wanted to ask to exchange numbers so we can text each other but I felt afraid like I was pushing it since it was the first time I was meeting her. I did notice my friend I exchanged numbers with exchange numbers with her but it seems woman exchange numbers easier but with guys I feel it might be too much.

What I want to know is did I do the right thing? She has been attending the church for over a year now so I hope to see her again on future Sundays and at future church events so I can talk and get to know her some more.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I have exchange numbers with girls I been friends with for years like one that originally came up to me and we talked on and off. I finally asked if we can text each other. Another from life group I have asked casually.

What I am asking is I met this woman on Sunday. I went up to her and talked to her. I asked her name, I said my name. We talked for quite a while and she did not even lose interest in talking to me. At the end of our long conversation I wanted to ask to exchange numbers so we can text each other but I felt afraid like I was pushing it since it was the first time I was meeting her. I did notice my friend I exchanged numbers with exchange numbers with her but it seems woman exchange numbers easier but with guys I feel it might be too much.

What I want to know is did I do the right thing? She has been attending the church for over a year now so I hope to see her again on future Sundays and at future church events so I can talk and get to know her some more.
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I think it is ok that you didn't ask right away, though it would have been ok if you did, if you were talking for a while. But also, waiting until the next time might be seen as polite. My opinion is that it cannot hurt to ask, but if she feels private with it, also try not to feel discouraged. Especially if you talk again for a while. Also, I would not ask at the very beginning of the new conversation, but wait until it starts to wrap up.
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Something like ... "I have really enjoyed talking with you, would you like to exchange numbers so we can text?" seems pretty ok to me.
 
Anytime is a good time to ask, especially when you have had a nice talk. Following up to complement her and relating what a nice encounter it was, is appropriate. Then ask her for a date as you would enjoy learning more about her. Talking is more personal than texting.
 
I agree, a date / in person is more personal. I still think, unless you are up to asking her out directly, that getting the number for calls/texting, might make it easier to set up a date. It is better to be mildly uncomfortable about the number, than majorly uncomfortable about the date - it would show.
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Note, that in my experience, one time I got a number and phone called, and she snubbed me. Even after I got her number. And after that, I've since realized that people don't make phone calls any more, just texts. So there is that ... maybe even ask her which she would prefer?
 
She was British so I knew I should have asked her if she uses WhatsApp? Many people from Europe use WhatsApp. I prefer to actually communicate with someone using WhatsApp as you can text and send media using Android (which is use) with iPhone's without issues.
 
and seriously, if you can manage it. Try not to be discouraged. You are learning a new skill. It is ok to stumble a bit. You are trying harder, and that shows. You can take pride in your actions.
 
I asked my wife about this she said most women will give a fake number if not interested but if it is a good number do not dally they do not like waiting on the guy.
 
Ronald Zeeman said:
I asked my wife about this she said most women will give a fake number if not interested but if it is a good number do not dally they do not like waiting on the guy.
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I doubt she will do that. She does not seem that kind of person.

I am just worried I won't see her again. There was this other woman from life group who use to show up from church a few weeks. One time I invited to the church coffee hour. Now she is always MIA and when she says she is coming to life group she cancels the last minute. That's what I am worried I might not see her again.
 
Ye, guys are really pushy nowadays suppose that's why girls give wrong number. Found guys even dial in front of you to see if you gave the number or not.

I think nt are very different, even at my age I understand more but notice we on different planets.
What happened to kitty profile pic? You look like a nice guy, much better looking than I thought from last time we chatted so it must be autism making it difficult.

Next time think quick, say hey...we having this 'event' and my friends said I must invite some new people or something like that. Do you want to come or can I text you details.
 
Even if things don't work out with this woman, you now know you can do it, and is not as scary as you thought. You got this.
 
Thanks for all the support. I told my mother who is hard to please. She says it confedence from doing the yoga that made me go up to this woman to talk to her.
 
Whatever helped you to do this (yoga, etc) you are the one doing this. You chose to face fear and talk. So I hope you are happy with your own efforts.
 
Thank you all. My confidents has improved. I could never do what I could do remotely what I could do in college like even just join a group like I can do now.
 
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