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Excuse me, l just had a feeling.......

Aspychata

Aspychata

Serenity waves, beachy vibes
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So tired of people putting me down because l have feelings.

Maybe l don't mask well enough for you, and you feel threatened near me.

I feel happiness, l may flap my hands and jump up and down. I may get upset, and call humankind idiots. I may giggle hilariously when you make me laugh. And yes, l may cry about the animal rescue advertisement trying to get my money.

So what. I am not dangerous. Maybe l am just more in touch with how l feel.

Do you feel society muzzles us?
 
I refuse to take part in self-flagellation because society can't handle my feelings and sends me to the shrinky dink office to be muzzled and medicated and contribute to big pharma daddy's bank account. How about l learn to live with my feelings?

Oops. I got carried away. Again. Lol
 
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My mother and a team of doctors muzzled me with chemical restraints when I was 9 and having meltdowns due to being under tons of stress in my family situation, so I understand how all of that can be.

Some people suck. Some doctors should be disbarred and prosecuted for crimes against humanity. Some parents should have been sterilized once their narcissism became clear.
 
I have talked to a lot of children survivors (now adults), whose parents never validated their feelings. Or refused to acknowledge they have feelings. Then society comes along and says you shouldn't have feelings, and you are weak if you have them.
 
YES. Society tries to muzzle us! I had always been quite open with my emotions though I am more circumspect the older I get. Because of that I never felt like a normal male. Do I regret that? Yes and no. I think many of my peers thought me too sensitive and weird and girls did not see me as a companion. That's OK: I ended up putting together a good life and enjoying who I am. Even moreso now that I've extinguished thoughts responsible for my PTSD.

Stay as you are, @Aspychata .
 
Its beautiful that you can experience your feelings. I have been doing reverse enginnering to become aware of the feelings my body was experiencing for years.

My wife and daugther still become aware of my feelings like 5 minutes before I do... o_O

Its perfectly healthy that you experience your feelings. Congratulations on that.
 
I am very reserved with expressing my feelings. Always have been. But my friend who I've mentioned before, she communicates what she feels with her whole body. I don't know what other people see, but I love it. I've always been told that I gesture too much, and to stop gesturing because it's distracting, and then I lose my train of thought & can't recall what I was in the middle of saying. (There's apparently a link between language and movement.) But with her, when she laughs, all of her laughs. I don't know how to do that. It is very calming to be around her. I'm never that calm around NTs.
 
GypsyMoth said:
I've always been told that I gesture too much, and to stop gesturing because it's distracting, and then I lose my train of thought & can't recall what I was in the middle of saying. (There's apparently a link between language and movement.)
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I've been told that also, and in rude ways.
Such as stop talking with your hands, (then they name some race or culture),
does that. Racist remark.

All people gesture all over the world when they talk. Even if the person can't see
them. Like over the phone.
It's called gesticulation and is perfectly natural. It adds emphasis to what you
are saying and helps you say more easily what you are describing.

Our society in USA does try to muzzle emotions being expressed.
Other cultures not so much.
Enthusiasm, love, grief and even anger are shown in expressiveness that
American's have been taught since birth not to show.
Extreme happiness, tears of grief, wailing, spontaneous hugs, shows of affection,
are all frowned upon, and we're told not to let it show so much.
Stiff upper lip and carry on is what we're taught.

Yet spontaneous group excitement and yelling at something like a sporting event
is OK.

Of course, crude, rude cursing of others is not acceptable.
That's a no brainer and can be breaking a law because it is abusive.
But society does dictate how we should act. Differs where you live in the world too.
And most conform. Like good little soldiers.
 
Humankind do seem rather put off with emotions or feelings.

I am exactly like you, when happy.

For the most part, those of my faith, say that it is because of these querks that they love me and not to change.

My husband often has said: oh, do grow up! You are not a child. But, at the same time, he has even said that my zeal is very charming.

I get excited when new kitchen equipment comes my way.
 
I agree, Aspy. It's not very helpful that our autism makes us have deeper feelings as well as bottle up more, so we need to release them somehow and as long as they're not harming us or someone else it's good.

People tend to call others stupid and insane for small petty things and don't even know what that definition means.

I have taken calming meds because I couldn't deal with what others did to my feelings in hope to stop the suffering or not to react back the same way they did.

Life is a snake pit.
 
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