Facebook rant!!!

[Mattymatt]

I'm so sick of Facebook that I've logged out of it on my iPhone and iPad. I'm sick of the hypocrite philosophers, the drama, and the folks living vicariously through their children. If I read one more disingenuous update that lacks any authenticity whatsoever, I'm going to vomit.

Facebook isn't social, it's pure idiocy and I only hoped it would die out. I so much prefer the "old fashioned" social media called a bulletin board.

Facebook, wasting people's time since circa 2002. Arrrrgggghhhh! LOL!

 

[Mattymatt]

I tried Facebook once. If memory serves right, but it seems that one of their catchphrases was "Join and Connect." I joined with the sole purpose of tracking down long lost friends, perhaps some cousins, and some old Army buddies. I did manage to find several people, but only one actually responded and has kept in touch. I personally found it to be a waste of time. There really wasn't anything edifying for me on Facebook. At least here I can communicate with other individuals who have the same challenges. Also, there isn't the "snobbery" here like you find on Facebook.

Very well articulated!!!! Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Mattymatt]

The discussions on AC have been quite fulfilling. There are a lot of really great people on here!!!! Looking forward to a long, fruitful membership. After I fix my Pay Pal account, I'll go VIP.

 

[Rudy Schmidt]

I frequently go dark from Facebook. I have it, and I'll be active (by which I mean I'll scan the updates once a day, send a message or two, and spend 90% of my Facebook time playing those dopey games I get addicted to) for a few weeks or so, and then I'll go dark for nine or ten months, or even a year or more. I think I should make more of an effort, as my whole biological family is 4000 miles away, but I just fall out of it.

 

[Mattymatt]

Nah, do what you like Rudy. Facebook is so overrated.

 

[Mattymatt]

Sportster, I stand corrected. Facebook is a tool, and if used properly, can do a lot of good. Skype is fun. When I lived in Arizona, I used to skype with my brother all of the time.

 

[Mattymatt]

I just need a nice 6 month break from it

 

[Nitro]

Zuckerweiner and his Fazecrook...laughs...a source of mass mis-information and an invasion of privacy well orchestrated by a very clever man. I tried it as a way of meeting up with former classmates and saw how nauseatingly creepy it was...the "must see!" posts about way off base thinking would leave me with dry heaves and placed me in the position of correcting my "friends" for sharing and perpetuating the hoaxes...next add in a mix of "friend" collectors with 100 plus friends...yeah,right...you honestly keep up with all of them...not!
Then there is advertising your business venture via Fazecrook....nice way for Mark to offer your competitor's products or services on your page as suggested reading...
I really do not want to see your dinner or even care that you are going to the gym and hate the pictures of your family members and friends that have no captions so anyone outside of your loop does not know who they are.

Then I had my man hating resharing, rehashtagged juvenile cartoon sister of a friend who showed just how much her last love dis-interest meant to her in a very 13 year old way...at 40,you would think junior highschool was over,but it wasn't...I did not block her because it was entertaining to watch her hit new all time lows

You actually think anyone cares that you are bored and will bring Mentos so your dilemma will be solved with them and gain a thumbs up?...Mark Z will be right over with 'em...after all he was your first "friend"...


I honestly think they should have a dislike button with an auto-send must see share

 

[Rudy Schmidt]

I know this isn't really relevant to the thread, but ironically, I remember hearing somewhere that Mark Zuckerman himself is an aspie.

 

[King_Oni]

Perhaps you are using Facebook wrong.

I don't get nearly as frustrated as many other I hear complaining about the drama on Facebook. In fact, I rarely have drama, so it's not like it just doesn't affect me... it just isn't there.

That however comes with having the "right" friends on said social network. I've got a handful of people there (about 80) most of which I known in real life and have spent at least some time with.

The few ones that caused a bit of drama are either filtered out of my newsfeed or just unfriended. Hence, I only keep people around who are somewhat fun or at least add something to my life by their fun or interesting posts. If you post links to articles that are interesting or have some funny stuff to say, you're good to stay. If all you do is post about how ****** your life is, I don't see how someone is adding and enriching my life. (I guess I could think of it as "well, at least my life is better than his/hers).

From all the things I do on a day, social media are actually one of the least likely things to bring any drama in my life...

 

[square_peg]

I closed my account a year ago and haven't looked back... Don't miss it at all.

I got so over the self pitiful status updates, the hysteria of news events, the self righteous views of EVERYONE being shoved down my throat constantly.. A whole lot of bs.

So Facebook and I 'ended our relationship'. Now I just have Instagram which I love. I love looking at photos - so IG works just fine for me

 

[Peace]

Facebook IS a tool, no different than anything else we have available to us. It is not for everyone, but can be used in a way to provide us with certain advantages. I enjoy seeing the photos and status updates from far away family and friends. I use it in the way that I carry myself in conversation, that is I am respectful and speak in complete sentences. If I post a photo, I will give a description for those who may not know what it is. I do not participate in drama nor in arguments, and I take pleasure in reconnecting with certain old friends and lost relatives.

 

[Mattymatt]

Facebook IS a tool, no different than anything else we have available to us. It is not for everyone, but can be used in a way to provide us with certain advantages. I enjoy seeing the photos and status updates from far away family and friends. I use it in the way that I carry myself in conversation, that is I am respectful and speak in complete sentences. If I post a photo, I will give a description for those who may not know what it is. I do not participate in drama nor in arguments, and I take pleasure in reconnecting with certain old friends and lost relatives.

Peace said it best. I was actually reacting with fairly strong emotion versus taking a rational perspective. Some of this belies the fact that I might have the maturity of someone ten or so years younger. I'll chalk it up to having an "Aspie" moment of frustration.

 

[King_Oni]

Facebook IS a tool, no different than anything else we have available to us. It is not for everyone, but can be used in a way to provide us with certain advantages.

Yet... despite it not being for everyone, everyone and their mother is on it. And the sad fact is that even for sake of employment, you often need to be hooked on social media already.

Perhaps FB would be better place if it actually was being seen as a tool to have some fun, rather than the means to participate in society.

 

[2aspirin]

I will add that, from the social skills perspective, I learned a lot from using Facebook and more about how NTs really think. I have become far more aware that since they are wired to read between lines and communicate with hidden agendas, that they can be quite sensitive to implications. Or what they think are implications. I care about NTs and don't need to separate myself from them. Just as I want their understanding, I can work to understand them. I learned to avoid "hijacking" conversations, learned information is not considered neutral, learned to show more quick "fist-bump" type feelings (like a quick "xoxo" or "I get it!"). I learned that what I used to think of as fake and disingenuous, is satisfying a sensory/emotional need many NTs have. If I need certain stims to ground me, they can have their own variety too. Our stims don't involve other people. Theirs do. It is like an interactive stim that grounds them. That is how I frame it.

 

[Flinty]

I quit Facebook a few years ago since I wasn't logging in anyway...then someone signed me up for 25-30 emails per day, and at the time I apparently had no choice but to accept them, so I ragequit.

Now I'm in the position of having to rejoin. Yes, having it forced on me. Wish me luck.

 

[Mattymatt]

Yet... despite it not being for everyone, everyone and their mother is on it. And the sad fact is that even for sake of employment, you often need to be hooked on social media already.

Perhaps FB would be better place if it actually was being seen as a tool to have some fun, rather than the means to participate in society.

I have a love/hate relationship with FB. Once I step away from it for a while and get my perspective back, I'll see it's value. Admittedly, my rant more likely reflects my own insecurities and lack of feeling connected ATM. I see other people's happiness and I want to feel happy for them but I feel empty. Instead, FB makes me feel broken and I know I'm not that way. I didn't close my account, just logged off.

 

[The Penguin]

I agree with you. I never once cared about Facebook and most social media sites.

 

[Turk]

Oh god don't get me started about Facebook. The place where everyone clicks something, in a vein attempt to appear informed or evolved, or worldly. I'm often told that my online friends aren't real friends, yet it seems perfectly fine to friend someone on Facebook, you don't know, and still call them friends. Quite often I'll see someone ignoring their " in the flesh " friends, in order to update there Facebook. It's usually something important though, like a picture of their dinner.

 

[Harrison]

I will add that, from the social skills perspective, I learned a lot from using Facebook and more about how NTs really think. I have become far more aware that since they are wired to read between lines and communicate with hidden agendas, that they can be quite sensitive to implications. Or what they think are implications. I care about NTs and don't need to separate myself from them. Just as I want their understanding, I can work to understand them. I learned to avoid "hijacking" conversations, learned information is not considered neutral, learned to show more quick "fist-bump" type feelings (like a quick "xoxo" or "I get it!"). I learned that what I used to think of as fake and disingenuous, is satisfying a sensory/emotional need many NTs have. If I need certain stims to ground me, they can have their own variety too. Our stims don't involve other people. Theirs do. It is like an interactive stim that grounds them. That is how I frame it.

Perfectly put.

I use FB in much the same way, and admit I am sometimes fascinated watching the flow of conversation.

Interestingly, in deriding social media sites I think we forget that AC is as much social media as any other. Defining something as a 'forum' doesn't remove it from the rank of social media.

I belong to a couple of other forums, one for truckers, and it is amazing how similar the boards can be. From 'What are you listening to today?' thru 'What's your favourite....'. Truck forum even has a 'I hate FB social media' and it is only because of its (as here) specialist nature that it is different. It is interesting that, considering we're Aspies, this site is actually quite social

Whether it be social media or forum we hold the power to join in or step aside.