Family Issues

[Eremita]

Hi again, my name is Gabo, and I live in Mexico.

I really need some orientation.

My stepfather and I don't talk each other, some days he just says "good morning" and I reply, and that's all.
I think he doesn't like me, which I can understand, because I think it would be hard to live with someone like me,
you know, inexpresive, avoiding visual contact and all those stuff.

I haven't talked too much with mother about Asperger (I'm self-diagnosed), just a couple a times, but she just
thought I was being ridiculous, and completely rejected the possibility. So she doesn't have an idea about what
Asperger is.

However, the other day she was complaining about my lack of empathy towards my stepfather. I told her she should
be a little bit more thoughtful with me, because of my condition.

But she rejected the idea once again, she told me I was this way because I had decided to be like this, because when I
was a child I wasn't like that. That I wasn't ashamed of meeting new people or speak in public. I tried to convince her, but
I couldn't.

Here is when I ask for advice, what could I do in order to get my mother to understand me a little bit more?
I'd like she get to know what Asperger is, what does it imply and accept the way I am.

Thank you for all your support.

 

[paloftoon]

If she's Internet savvy, look for something short and sweet that she can browse from a website. You can try writing something rather than telling her, or asking her to go to a website with a video on it. Maybe you can find a conference and go with her to it. Sometimes when people bump into third party people who are going through the same struggles, people can open their eyes more. I know how you feel with your mom.

 

[eonbus]

tell your mom to back off. she is not caring about you.

 

[LostInSilentHill]

I am having the same issue with my parents as well. It's difficult to convince someone of something when they are determined to be right. You can try and get a professional diagnosis but that can be both difficult and expensive. Perhaps you can find a book on Aspergers for her to read.