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Fear and worries

lovely_darlingprettybaby

lovely_darlingprettybaby

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So you struggle of fear of the unknown and overwhelming fears and worries in certain situations.
If anything is really unknown and confusing I get so worried and upset.
And no matter what I do I cannot feel better until I have some insight into why things are happening they way they are.
I get excessively worried and fearful in confusing situations and that is all I know how to be.
 
One of my biggest anxiety triggers is waiting for something I don't know the outcome of when it could be bad news and I have no way to do anything about it.
 
My anxiety has gotten worse the last couple years, and l also have become more OCD about where is my wallet, where are my keys, l am more anxious about strangers. It's amazing l am in a relationship.
 
Honestly, I think it's alot to do with upbringing with me. Just normalizing the expectation of something negative happening.

Though I would not discount Judge's recommendation. I sometimes still wonder if I have GAD, or I'm just psychologically effed because of my parent's lack of love towards me.

But I definitely know how it feels to really be uncomfortable and on edge about things you don't have answers to.
 
That’s me now. Waiting to find out about mom’s cancer. How bad it is. What will she go through? How can I actually help. Will the family break apart if the worse happens.
I also do that for any event or choice that deviates from my routine.
 
Unknowns are scary.

I try to prepare for new situations and experiences by doing research beforehand so I have some idea of what to possibly expect.
 
That's exactly right @VictorR , when you know you are OCD, because you have a huge what-if list to cover for uncertainties which cause, face it- lots of anxiety. This is how l came put of the womb, with a tiny pencil and paper figuring out other ways to exit my mom's belly. Lol
 
I fear and worry constantly about global catastrophic events such as climate change, disease or nukes. In the 1990s I was genuinely terrified that the world was going to end soon, and 9/11 did not help it. I'm sick of having to pretend to be a normal person that can do normal things while the world has clearly gone insane and is not normal.
 
I always say live in the moment because it’s more important than the future. Time and time again, I have been proven that life can sometimes throw you off balance. You might have your future carefully planned, but life might have a different path for you. Living in the moment is the most important part because it is what you have control of now not the future. I understand where you are coming from because I used to do the same thing. I hope this helps to ease your fears and worries.
 
Xinyta said:
Honestly, I think it's alot to do with upbringing with me. Just normalizing the expectation of something negative happening.

Though I would not discount Judge's recommendation. I sometimes still wonder if I have GAD, or I'm just psychologically effed because of my parent's lack of love towards me.

But I definitely know how it feels to really be uncomfortable and on edge about things you don't have answers to.
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Yes me too and sometimes you cannot help but think the worst when things seem really off
It is easy to trust what your heart is saying when there is no other rationale explanation and it feels like a long time to find out for certain.
 
DaisyRose said:
I always say live in the moment because it’s more important than the future. Time and time again, I have been proven that life can sometimes throw you off balance. You might have your future carefully planned, but life might have a different path for you. Living in the moment is the most important part because it is what you have control of now not the future. I understand where you are coming from because I used to do the same thing. I hope this helps to ease your fears and worries.
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I cannot live in the moment..I need to know otherwise i get fearful and try to control.
I try to control anyway because the other things feels weird and I guess my self worth is low
So I try to control for something to do and it feels weird to let go of it and I feel fearful.
I do not see why control is wrong if it feels weird and upsetting to not have it
It is an effort not to pick it back up because it feels as weird when you drop it.
As much as u would want to when so things go well.
If you control..it is not wrong there maybe reasons
 
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