Feeling emptiness during a relationship

[SimplyWandering]

So i am lgbt and i am sure some of you have felt this at a given time, you fall in love with someone uber fast... I told him I loved him within a 3 week period and that I felt a soulmate connection. The love became even greater when he told me he loved me...

4 months later and i still love him just as much, but over this whole period I find myself "empty" when he isn't around, almost like life is incomplete.

Never do I worry that he might cheat, only that this happiness might end 1 day (I've even caught myself, before saying to him "I hope you never leave me."). Then I wonder if i am being selfish for thinking this way and typically feel bad after analyzing myself.

I am just wondering if this is a typical way of thinking for Autism spectrum and what would be a good way to feel "less empty?"

 

[Katleya]

I definitely know about that empty feeling, but I had always assumed that was the same for everybody until... well, until this thread, actually.

Unfortunately I can't advise how to deal with it. Over time in the relationship, my emptiness has been kind enough to only pop up occasionally, although even in the beginning, it never bothered me when I was busy with my own interests or work. It mostly reappeared when considering that one way or another, one day the relationship will end, and I have no idea how to deal with the void it'll leave.

Not sure it helps, but long story short, I can relate.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

For me it is also not about getting close as a way of avoiding a connection lost and the pain of it.

From both sides ie if i was the one who lost the loved one
And if they lost me if i didnt 'make it' if you folllow.

Partly a result of feelings things too intensely
(I thought through right to the end)
Which can be tempered with age, i think.

Also a tendency to have fewer relationships can also link to the intensity.
Whereas a NT may be more spread out with wider social connections which spread the pain of loss.

You can learn to manage better as you get older.

 

[Bolletje]

I feel empty whenever my boyfriend isn't around unexpectedly. I'm fine with him being away during his work hours, but I can't handle him not being there when I expect him around. I get really anxious.

 

[Adora]

I don’t feel empty but I can understand,my husband recently started a job working on the roads and it’s a six day a week with a early start,I’m learning to get use to it but I will admit that sometimes I do get lonely but I don’t think you are being selfish and overanalysing things can lead to more stress,trust this from someone who overthinks a lot.