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Finding myself in my Forties

Skylark

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Hi everyone, I'm a 41 year old married mum of one. I have had a cascade of symptoms and diagnoses over the past few years (FND, CFS, JHS, GAD) but only in the past couple of months have I begun to realise some fundamental things about myself.

I was a shy, studious tomboy as a child. In my twenties, I avoided growing up too much and took to Live Roleplaying as a hobby. That turned out to be good art therapy as a neuropsychiatrist recently pointed out that I _had_ Social Anxiety Disorder but not any more. Well, I partially agree.

It was whilst learning about my diagnosis of Joint Hypermobility Syndrome (= Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) that I learned that Asperger's is sometimes 'comorbid' (I don't like that word!) Since a friend has recently been diagnosed I was motivated to look it up...and what I discovered profoundly resonated with my life experience.

It seemed to describe so many details about me that I took the AQ test (um...a few times) scoring on average 39, enough to strongly indicate that I am indeed on the spectrum.

It explains quirks I have, things my husband reports to me about how I am (how I occassionally infuriate and confuse him!!!) and also difficulties I have in certain areas, as well as a few talents.

So, I've decided to accept that I'm most likely an Aspie (mum and aunt have a few undeniable traits too) and to seek an official diagnosis. It may have to wait as I'm still waiting for my clinical EDS diagnosis though (i.e. which type) so I needed somewhere to chat and ask questions. Hello!
 
I am sadly 45 and not officially diagnosed, but there is no doubt that I am an aspie: tick so many boxes it is untrue ( or true lol).

Can't get an "official" diagnosis because of living in France and not being able to find an English speaking one, close by!
 
Shy studious tomboy here:) Wonderful description, as my Mom tried to clean the mud off and get me into a dress and patent leather shoes. I too have found out about this much later in life. It explains quite a bit about me, and infuriating my spouse seems familiar. Welcome to the forum Skylark.
 
Hello! Thankyou for the lovely welcome. I'm still a bit of a tomboy but 20 years of Larp have reduced my shyness!
 
Hi & Welcome,
A lot of older self diagnosed persons here, from before HFA was generally recognized.
 
Welcome aboard!
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Wait a minute... Joint Hypermobility Syndrome is connected with autism?

And welcome! Another studious tomboy here. Homework was easier than kids in school and boys were easer company than girls. In fact, I still hang out with the boys only now in chatrooms in on-line game guilds. I'm 52 and has recently discovered both me, daddy and two kids are all on the spectrum. Story told under Parenting...
 
Rocco, lovely image!
Datura - no, it is an obscure reference to the place I live and also the name of my blue wheelchair (I'm a very part-time wheelchair user).
 
Karin - yes, I usually got on better with the boys! I was so very shy and girls didn't make as much sense, even though I was one and wanted to be with them. A few years ago I realised that I'm bi. My hubby already knew, from my body language. I've always been rather oblivious to flirting and glad that hubby made his obvious!
 

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