Finishing/closing a conversation

[Warwick C]

I am wondering I any one else has differculty in closing a conversation.

I am wondering if a problem with putting thoughts into words is part of it, and if you are insecure to go with it.

If it is the wrong place can a moderator move it to a more suitable place.:unsure:

 

[tridianprime]

I just say "bye" or "i am bored now" but i haven't spoken to anyone offline since August. That will change this weekend at the reptile store.

If you have trouble why not practise with a friend or someone you trust.

 

[Warwick C]

If I am talking to someone I have differculty in knowing when to stop or have the last word. For me I am mostly reactive to a conversation with someone new, I respond to thier questions.

 

[Ereth]

For me, the difficulty of finishing a conversation really depends on to whom I'm speaking. But I've been getting better at it, I think.

I just say "bye" or "i am bored now"

Oh, goodness . . . saying "I'm bored" is one of the worst ways to end a talk. It's quite rude. The only thing worse, IMHO, is just leaving the other person suddenly.

 

[Ste11aeres]

Conversation? What's that?

 

[Warwick C]

That's how I feel Ste11a, With me it is mostly one way, I would like to improve upon it. I go into the physio most days and have a quick chat with the receptionist, If I can see that she is busy I will wish her a nice day. I think I am getting better at closing a convverstaion with her, by saying I'll let you get back to work, if I can see she has plenty on.

 

[Laughingowl1975]

I have trouble starting conversations let alone finish them, mostly I wait until someone asks me something or talks to me first (like someone saying hello on the telephone, though in that regard I am good at answering the phone, just no good at passing on any messages), I finish conversations usually when I run out of things to say, I have felt I have made my point or I suddenly realize the other person is bored with me, then I just say 'I'd better let you go' or something like that, I'm afraid my conversation skills aren't the best they seem to sound half-finished or disjointed.

 

[nowwhat]

I have a harder time ending a conversation than Neal Stephenson does ending a novel!

So, um, yes. Awkward, especially since it usually includes some sort of touchy bits. With guys, not so bad, as it's handshake, except for Dad, brothers, and a handful of really close friends, who get handclasp-brohug. I'm never sure with women. Handshake seems odd. Hug? Cheek peck? Fark if I know. Sometimes I just wave from half a yard away and walk off.

I think a lot of it is that I'm insecure with my acceptance level with all but a few people, so I am somehow afraid to end the encounter. I have a much easier time with those I feel accepted by. (a list you can write 3x on a housefly's buttcheek)

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I have a harder time ending a conversation than Neal Stephenson does ending a novel!

So, um, yes. Awkward, especially since it usually includes some sort of touchy bits. With guys, not so bad, as it's handshake, except for Dad, brothers, and a handful of really close friends, who get handclasp-brohug. I'm never sure with women. Handshake seems odd. Hug? Cheek peck? Fark if I know. Sometimes I just wave from half a yard away and walk off.

I think a lot of it is that I'm insecure with my acceptance level with all but a few people, so I am somehow afraid to end the encounter. I have a much easier time with those I feel accepted by. (a list you can write 3x on a housefly's buttcheek)

Do housefly's actually have buttcheeks? Huh.

 

[Judge]

Good question Warwick.

Interesting to think that yes, it's easy to close a conversation- in business. The "mechanics" of the situation. That is, when I had what I needed I could end the conversation. And when they had what they needed from me, vice-versa.

In a social call though, it can be agony. Just trying not to be rude...but figuring I've talked enough or if I have something else to do. Yeah, that can be awkward! That those "mechanics" are missing. Funny, just another one of those little communications things I never gave much thought to.

Socialization for the sake of business, yeah. Socialization for the sake of socialization....that's a little more difficult. Wow...

 

[anja]

My go to phrase is 'cool' and then look away and/walk away. Returning to my studies is also how I tend to leave things if I'm talking to my teacher ... I never really know how to end or start conversations :/

 

[zurb]

I always struggle with knowing when and how to close. My most common phrase would be 'I'll let you get back to [whatever it seems they were doing].' Otherwise it probably goes something like:
Ummmm
Was there something else?
Umm, I don't think so. Guess I'll see ya later.

Living in another culture, I learnt to listen to how they do it. There was a pretty common and straightforward way.
Now I've got to do the same back home. But there seems so many ways, and little consistency. If I copy others it seems to feel awkward or rude.

 

[tree]

3 ways I can think of right now that conversations with me end:

1. Now we will go eat breakfast together, separately.
2. I don't want to stop being with you, but if I don't go, I can't come back.
3. You are laughing, so we can stop talking now. OK, bye...

1 & 3 = phone
2 = in person

 

[Beverly]

I know it's a bit rude, but, I usually just walk off, or excuse myself to do something else, like use the restroom, or get a drink, and never come back. On the phone, I will say "Okay, I've got to get my chores done so, later." and promptly hang up.