First impressions

[DaisyRose]

What do you look for when considering first impressions? I never judge people by their looks when it comes to interacting with people and getting to know them. I always like to look at their personality and their brains instead because you can get a better perspective.

 

[AdamG]

It is unconscious for me but I know what it is. I look intently at people with peripheral vision so not to stare. So I pick up movement more than detail. Shifts in posture and expression are lie detectors and can give an idea of intent. Also smell and general "vibe"

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I agree wholeheartedly! When young I was mocked by other guys when I liked girls for their personality and intelligence rather than looks. I am very happy that I did not waver from that because that led me to be friends with my spouse, talking to her, even before we met each other.

 

[DaisyRose]

I always say if anyone judges other people if they have scars, birth defects, amputations, physical and mental disabilities, etc. you are going to a special place in hell. It’s not right to judge people who have physical and genetic characteristics that are out of their control. Especially when they already feel self conscious about it. Karma is gonna come your way for making fun of people like that.

 

[Athyrium]

I always try to see people's personality, but it can be difficult with how many people change who they are based on who they are with. So it can be tricky for me to figure people out like that and has lead to not great things.

Another thing I look at, and it's really silly. But when people are in a non-work environment, I'll take a glance at their footwear. It's not a perfect method, but I do think there are some trends with what shoes people wear, how they wear them, what their condition is, etc.

 

[Rodafina]

I try to pay attention to how people treat others. I think it is telling.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

To add - I had a hard time processing social signals/body language and so had a hard time figuring people out. There were a couple of times I was taken advantage of by users. Now I sorta know what to look for and drop people like that very quickly.

 

[Knower of nothing]

I'm not too good at this in the moment but volume is a big one. The need to be loud not just in voice but in how you move is especially worrisome to me.
Beyond that all I can really work off of is people's words and deeds, nothing too useful if you wanna make snappy judgments. Mannerisms are beyond me from lack of sample size.

 

[Au Naturel]

What do you look for when considering first impressions? I never judge people by their looks when it comes to interacting with people and getting to know them. I always like to look at their personality and their brains instead because you can get a better perspective.

Those are pretty difficult to see. Most people do not reveal their self until after they feel safe. NTs always have a social facade as a protective barrier.

 

[Progster]

I see how they interect with me and how they interact with others. But I'm aware of the fact that how they interact with others may be different to how they interact with me. I really need to talk to people for a while to know whether I'm likely to get on with them.

 

[WildCat]

I'm looking for character and actions, not anything surface level. Both of the two give me everything I need to know about a person. How someone treats others is also something I look out for.

 

[MNAus]

I don't. And I don't mean that in a self congratulatory "it's bad to judge, y'all". I just don't get anything from the event of meeting someone. I mean yeah, I'll see and notice things, and I might think "not so keen on that". For instance if they're too touchy feely or smell rotten. But there's no real vibe. I can get the feel like they might be like a certain TV or film character, but that's kind of it. All the stuff means nothing to me. Couldn't guess their job, their age, where they are from, what their hobbies are, nothing much really.

 

[Dagan]

I can't do simple or short time impressions. I am all about patterns of behavior. I am one who studies and one who remembers almost everything about the patterns of others. I admittedly get things wrong, especially if I don't spot red flags because I didn't stay apprehensive and study / learn someone long enough, first. Even here in this forum...I'm doing the same. It's not about like or dislike so much, either. It's about trust and comfort. If I don't trust you or feel comfortable to even talk to you, I'm just not going to engage more than I absolutely have to...or at all.