Even though I am not officially diagnosed, the few I have told, two of them recognized immediately. One because her son is Aspergic and the other, because he worked with a chap who is Aspergic, but the one who's son is, does not treat me any different, so it is as if I had not said anything and she is a bit of a no all and the reality is, that she doesn't know it all, but is such a forceful character, there is no point me trying. The other one, doesn't treat me special, but is gentle with me and encourages me when he sees me, which is rather nice. The 3rd one, when I told her, just asked questions and seems to just accept I am, without lecturing me on "taking things from the internet".
There are some people in my life, that I know I have to tell, but only will do so, when it is official, because I just sense they will not take me serious, unless they have a dr's stamp on it!
My husband is trying to understand and sometimes, he is great and other times, rather nasty about it all. When I have a melt down, I cannot speak, but he associates that to be cruel and vindictive (it honestly isn't) but he has now taken to saying to me: darling I am in the other room, which seems to act as a tug and I can move my feet to go and talk to him. Or he says: you can lower your voice now, but with a friendly smile!
The most important one to know is the one who shares your life or at least, is around a lot!
There are some I know, that will not get to know and that is because they really do not care enough!