Going back to school

[Voltaic]

Could you guys give me some tips for school? I'm sorry, but I am not going through the effort of writing this right, so here are my things I need help on in point form.
*getting out of bed
*making friends in a school setting
*focusing
* staying sane in a sensory overwhelming situation
*dealing with pressure
*getting work in on time
*social anxiety

If you feel willing, answer what you can. Any help is appreciated.

 

[LucyPurrs]

I've discovered that if I let myself think about whether I want to do something or not, I like as not, won't do it (like exercising). So about getting out of bed, don't let yourself think about it just go through the motions and sooner or later it should become easier to do.

Every year I procrastinate doing my taxes and have this idea they are going to be awful. Every year I marvel at how much easier they were to do than I thought they'd be. Maybe you'll find that with some of your school assignments also- I hope so.

Would it help to eliminate the pressure of social stuff if you gave yourself permission to just focus on school work and not try to force yourself to be "social" and make friends? Would that take some pressure off?

Maybe you could find another setting in which to focus on the making friends stuff like an extracurricular activity or joining a group that's involved with something you enjoy doing?

Since I'm not an Aspie, not sure if any of this helps but thought I'd give it a try.

 

[FreeDiver]

Could you guys give me some tips for school? I'm sorry, but I am not going through the effort of writing this right, so here are my things I need help on in point form.
*getting out of bed
*making friends in a school setting
*focusing
* staying sane in a sensory overwhelming situation
*dealing with pressure
*getting work in on time
*social anxiety

If you feel willing, answer what you can. Any help is appreciated.

Heres what I think of these questions.

*getting out of bed

That is a matter of habit and will and I don't see being an aspie causing an issue here.

*making friends in a school setting

This could be a real issue here. Being an aspie will definitely get in the way on this one. but you might get lucky.

*focusing

Mostly a matter of habit and will. But SPD issues will definitely get in the way on this one.

* staying sane in a sensory overwhelming situation

It's a matter of managing your SPD issues.

*dealing with pressure

Mostly a matter of habit and will. But SPD issues will definitely make this harder to manage.

*getting work in on time

That is a matter of habit and will and I don't see being an aspie causing an issue here.

*social anxiety

Live with it. Being an aspie means that you will alway be a social screw up and social anxiety is one of those things that can help you be aware of it, and can even help you stay out of trouble. I know this sucks, but as an aspie, this can be your best friend. If you can't handle it then stay away from people.

 

[the_tortoise]

*getting out of bed

Maybe you need a reason to get out of bed -- or else a reason to get out of bed that is more compelling than any reasons you have to stay in bed?

Is your program of study one that can be done via distance? Then you wouldn't have to get out of bed, you could just work and learn while in your bed.

Or do you mean this not-literally -- like getting up early? Best solution I can suggest for that is to sign up for classes in the afternoons and evenings whenever possible. Or get yourself the world's most annoying alarm clock and put it across the room so you have to get up to turn it off.

*focusing
*getting work in on time

Depends on why these things are problems for you.

All I can suggest is to identify the reasons you can't focus or get work in on time, and go from there.

* staying sane in a sensory overwhelming situation

Reduce how overwhelming the situation is with things like earplugs, sunglasses, hats fidgets, chewable objects, weighted clothing, etc -- and/or take periodic breaks from the situation before you start slipping off the edge of the "sanity" cliff.

Try following a sensory diet and make sure you regularly do things (not necessarily sensory things, just anything) that makes you feel calm and happy (in life generally, outside of the overwhelming sensory situations).

 

[Bella Pines]

Hi, I'm a 40 something city worker who happens to be pure aspie with 2 boys. I would say:

• getting out of bed

As above. Routine. I set my alarm for the same time everyday, crawl into the clothes that I have laid out, which are EXACTLY the same structure but different colours (and clean underwear). It's so habitual I don't even remember doing it. By the time I wake up I am commuting on the train. I get up super early to give myself a few hours to adjust to the day.

• making friends in a school setting

Don't bother. I have 1 friend from school that I stay in touch with and I happier for not trying any more.

• focusing

Rewards, your own mental star chart. If I get through my boring jobs then I can mess around on the internet. But as you get older, the mental discipline won't come from nagging parents and teachers, you have to put yourself on the naughty step.

• staying sane in a sensory overwhelming situation

Describe it. There are so many overwhelming situations and one solution doesn't suit all.

• dealing with pressure

Ignore, compartmentalize, pretend you are somewhere else, stay in your fantasy world whilst smiling and nodding to the outside world. Stop caring.

• getting work in on time

Same as point 1. Set your alarm an hour earlier.

• social anxiety

Same as the overwhelming situations and pressure, more details required.