Good paying job and still depressed

[The Penguin]

This is a question came to my mind for so long. I meet many people haves a good paying job, but they end up leaving that job. It's something I want to make sense of as I once had a good paying but did feel depressed. I never left that job. Instead, after working for this company for so long, they decide to let me go as they don't want to keep people with a disability. To me as long I have a good income, I will continue working for a company I don't like. I know people have the freedom to leave their job and take all their time they need because they live with family or someone that offers them some type of support. As for me, I live on my own and I don't have this type of freedom that others haves. I want to here people thoughts on this?

 

[Harrison]

I wont work for a company where I am not happy, if I become unhappy I will leave.

Last job I had I was in charge, my drivers all liked me but the management above me were complete ***********. Despite a year of trying to sort things out with them they were not budging so I left. Company I'm with now treats me respectfully, listens if I have an issue and lets me get on with the job.

Work is important to me, I've never been unemployed and never want to be so being happy doing my job is vital.

Like you, I live alone and the years are stacked up, but we have to be in control of some area of our life. For me it's my work environment.

 

[The Penguin]

I wont work for a company where I am not happy, if I become unhappy I will leave.

Last job I had I was in charge, my drivers all liked me but the management above me were complete ***********. Despite a year of trying to sort things out with them they were not budging so I left. Company I'm with now treats me respectfully, listens if I have an issue and lets me get on with the job.

Work is important to me, I've never been unemployed and never want to be so being happy doing my job is vital.

Like you, I live alone and the years are stacked up, but we have to be in control of some area of our life. For me it's my work environment.

Understandable. I will admit I did thought about leaving this company a few times. It was not viable yet as I still have lots of debt to pay off.

 

[Judge]

In part, I think you've answered your own question. That is, it takes resources to have the luxury to go from one job to the next, in a quest for the ultimate job or the ultimate paycheck- or both. And that if you don't have such resources, you don't have such a luxury. "No bucks, no Buck Rogers".

However the other part of the equation is the element of risk. The process of crunching the numbers to determine risk versus reward. Some of us have the ability to do this well, others not so much. And still others are simply going to be more prone to taking risks altogether. I suspect many people in general are prone to retaining a certain degree of unhappiness in pursuit of security and stability.

And then there are others who spend a lifetime thinking "the grass is always greener on the other side of the pasture". Odds are that it isn't true in most cases.

So the real question becomes can you, or are you willing to gamble on your own life?

 

[The Penguin]

In part, I think you've answered your own question. That is, it takes resources to have the luxury to go from one job to the next, in a quest for the ultimate job or the ultimate paycheck- or both. And that if you don't have such resources, you don't have such a luxury.

However the other part of the equation is the element of risk. The process of crunching the numbers to determine risk versus reward. Some of us have the ability to do this well, others not so much.

And still others are simply going to be more prone to taking risks altogether. I suspect many people in general are prone to retaining a certain degree of unhappiness in pursuit of security and stability.

Oh- and there are others who spend a lifetime thinking "the grass is always greener on the other side of the pasture". Odds are this is not the case...

Very correct. It was also hard to relate to people for a company I was once working for. But this does didn't matter to me. I use to have 3 weeks of vacations and 9 statutory holidays which works out almost 5 weeks of vacation per year. During my vacation I would do my camping trips.

But your very right, people can only handle unhappiness for so long.

 

[Judge]

I spent most of my life clinging to jobs whether I liked them or not because of how arduous looking for work was to me. Easily the most daunting thing in my life. It wasn't until only a few years where I had enough of it all and was willing to risk what I have to change my life.

I did so, but every day is filled with risk. For me it's a fair tradeoff. Others may think I'm crazy. It's ok.

 

[The Penguin]

I spent most of my life clinging to jobs whether I liked them or not because of how arduous looking for work was to me. Easily the most daunting thing in my life. It wasn't until only a few years where I had enough of it all and was willing to risk what I have to change my life.

I did so, but every day is filled with risk. For me it's a fair tradeoff. Others may think I'm crazy. It's ok.

I would't consider it crazy based on what you describe. It seems you had a good valid reason for the choice you made.

 

[Harrison]

I know how that feels Judge.

My friends all think I'm still wealthy and that is why I can take so many risks in my work and private life. Truth is I am slightly better than broke but I am fed up of being stepped upon. I know the risks I take, and that I am always one step from being homeless but I will take them anyway.

I have a wierd perception of 'time', I only acknowledge the day I am in. The past and the future could both equally be an illusion.

 

[The Penguin]

I'm biding my time where I'm at. The work is okay, but the place sucks. The politics cannot be believed and the rules remind me of a backyard football game; they change them whenever they feel like it. If I can hold out until October 2017, I can retire with a small pension. I'll be advanced in years to be finding another job, but perhaps I can land something I like that will pay enough to live; and with the pension, I can make do.

I wish the best for you

 

[Randomperson]

I have had my current job for over 5 years now. It is not difficult so it does not pay much, but I have made it work out so that I can eat and sleep under a roof. It started as 40 hours per week, but after a year no one wanted to work more then a single night of my 2 nights off, so then it was 48-50 hours a week, then no one wanted to work that night and it turned into 56-60 hours a week, I was nice and agreed to work all these extra hours for base pay since getting that much over time was out of the question and even when I got nights off I had nothing to do during my off time anyway. It is not making me wealthy by any means, but I live off of half of what I make after the government steals a chunk that goes to doing nothing usefull.

 

[The Penguin]

I have had my current job for over 5 years now. It is not difficult so it does not pay much, but I have made it work out so that I can eat and sleep under a roof. It started as 40 hours per week, but after a year no one wanted to work more then a single night of my 2 nights off, so then it was 48-50 hours a week, then no one wanted to work that night and it turned into 56-60 hours a week, I was nice and agreed to work all these extra hours for base pay since getting that much over time was out of the question and even when I got nights off I had nothing to do during my off time anyway. It is not making me wealthy by any means, but I live off of half of what I make after the government steals a chunk that goes to doing nothing usefull.

Yeah taxes does suck. Wow you work a lot of hours.

 

[Randomperson]

Yeah taxes does suck. Wow you work a lot of hours.

It might seem that way, but most of the time at work, is not spent doing anything in particular other then waiting to be needed to do something. It is at a small resort in a remote location and it is on the overnight shift, so I rarely see anyone for over half the shift even in summer, and it slows down in the winter considerably. It also comes in to play that I can do the daily book keeping in minutes, I am told it should take over an hour, but I simply can not do simple math that slowly. My boss is happy enough with the way I work since I never fall asleep or ignore customers or the phone and my tasks are all completed.

 

[The Penguin]

It might seem that way, but most of the time at work, is not spent doing anything in particular other then waiting to be needed to do something. It is at a small resort in a remote location and it is on the overnight shift, so I rarely see anyone for over half the shift even in summer, and it slows down in the winter considerably. It also comes in to play that I can do the daily book keeping in minutes, I am told it should take over an hour, but I simply can not do simple math that slowly. My boss is happy enough with the way I work since I never fall asleep or ignore customers or the phone and my tasks are all completed.

I wish my work like that. I'm on a bloody assembly line

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I have had my current job for over 5 years now. It is not difficult so it does not pay much, but I have made it work out so that I can eat and sleep under a roof. It started as 40 hours per week, but after a year no one wanted to work more then a single night of my 2 nights off, so then it was 48-50 hours a week, then no one wanted to work that night and it turned into 56-60 hours a week, I was nice and agreed to work all these extra hours for base pay since getting that much over time was out of the question and even when I got nights off I had nothing to do during my off time anyway. It is not making me wealthy by any means, but I live off of half of what I make after the government steals a chunk that goes to doing nothing usefull.

That's a lot of work you put in, Mr. Random. I hope they aren't taking advantage of you.

 

[Antonio]

I thought that having a good-paying job would bring me happiness and respect but it turns out that's not true. There will still be problems at your job no matter what you do, and there will be people who disrespect you or dislike you no matter how successful you are. Sure it might be nice to travel to exotic destinations but if you're not happy sitting at home in your yard or doing things in your area will you really be happy sitting on the beach in Fiji or watching lions in Africa? Maybe it will make you happy for a while but there are only so many destinations and new things. I've learned to try to enjoy the simple things and try to rely less on money. (I haven't quit my job though, lucky for me I enjoy my job and I'm happy with the pay)

 

[The Penguin]

For the most part, yes. There are some companies that everyone is great including management, but this is extremely rare. I was able to manage being a company I didn't fully enjoy and only have my vacation time to enjoy myself. My main goal is to pay off my debts so my life can be easier. Anyhow, how things stand now, it might be possible for me to be in the Self Employment Program that will cover my living expenses and offer support. In the process finding someone to cover the cost for accommodations so I can be accepted which I'm fighting hard for. How things stand, I may be better off being self employed than working for someone. I know being self employed is not for everyone, but it something I know I would enjoy.

I'm not a person needs lots of money. I'm happy to have a life able to do many camping and hiking trips that is very affordable.

 

[Randomperson]

That's a lot of work you put in, Mr. Random. I hope they aren't taking advantage of you.

This is simply the nature of our species, the majority only seek to take, they do not want to give, but no, I started out working 5 8 hour shifts, and it was my own poking and prodding that got my hours increased, because at 40 hours a week ends were only met. I decided I would rather work more hours here then have another job and the hassle of scheduling work at both to coincide and not overlap. The current situation where I am working 3-4 12 hour days and still working 7 days a week is a bit much, but I volunteered for that as well, as I did not want to make the manager work 16 hour days and have her get frustrated and quit. It took me years to get her trained the way I like. My job does not pay much per hour, so I have to work lots of hours (during which I only have to do a little work) to make enough money to get ahead.

Would I like being wealthy? Who can say, but it would more then likely be boring and shallow.

 

[StephF]

I have a wierd perception of 'time', I only acknowledge the day I am in. The past and the future could both equally be an illusion.

Time is an illusion, lunchtime doubly so, Ford Prefect HHGTTG