NovemberThumper
New Member
Hello friends,
I am not on the spectrum, I guess I am what you all call an NT. I am here to learn so that I may help my cousin. He is high functioning I suppose, he does have a degree from college. This being said he has many traits that make it very hard for him to function in society. One day his mother will be gone and no one will be here to take care of him and I fear he will not be able to take care of himself very well. He exhibits a great deal of behavior that I am only beginning to understand, these traits would make it extremely hard for other people to understand. The biggest one I feel is that he does not actually deal with his own identity. He simply seems to ignore that he is and Aspy, rather than embrace it. I am beginning to wonder if he is even able to change the way he sees himself and the world. So I am here to learn from all of you. Please forgive my ignorance.
I think one of the hardest parts about helping him is that he does not seem to be able to take constructive criticism. He does not seem to differentiate between a fact and an opinion, he is angry over things that happened years ago, as if they just happened and we haven't already discussed it a million times. He finds offenses in things that are not meant to be offensive, sometimes they are even friendly. Probably the most disturbing thing is he does not seem to rank a child's life higher than a dogs life. If he had to choose between saving a small child and saving his dog, I think he'd choose the dog. He has no concept of moral grey areas and the complexity of life such as mercy and forgiveness. We had to prolong my Grandmothers suffering and pain because he could not cope with the idea of letting someone die in a Hospice.
That being said he's a good person with a good heart. I want to help him.
I am not on the spectrum, I guess I am what you all call an NT. I am here to learn so that I may help my cousin. He is high functioning I suppose, he does have a degree from college. This being said he has many traits that make it very hard for him to function in society. One day his mother will be gone and no one will be here to take care of him and I fear he will not be able to take care of himself very well. He exhibits a great deal of behavior that I am only beginning to understand, these traits would make it extremely hard for other people to understand. The biggest one I feel is that he does not actually deal with his own identity. He simply seems to ignore that he is and Aspy, rather than embrace it. I am beginning to wonder if he is even able to change the way he sees himself and the world. So I am here to learn from all of you. Please forgive my ignorance.
I think one of the hardest parts about helping him is that he does not seem to be able to take constructive criticism. He does not seem to differentiate between a fact and an opinion, he is angry over things that happened years ago, as if they just happened and we haven't already discussed it a million times. He finds offenses in things that are not meant to be offensive, sometimes they are even friendly. Probably the most disturbing thing is he does not seem to rank a child's life higher than a dogs life. If he had to choose between saving a small child and saving his dog, I think he'd choose the dog. He has no concept of moral grey areas and the complexity of life such as mercy and forgiveness. We had to prolong my Grandmothers suffering and pain because he could not cope with the idea of letting someone die in a Hospice.
That being said he's a good person with a good heart. I want to help him.
