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i am recently dx with aspergers/hfa after many years of difficulty. still trying to comprehend and accept all the new info that is flooding my brain. lots of confusion of who i am and whom i am supposed to be.

in any case looking fwd to this journey

thanks
 
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Welcome!!! You're among friends here, as we all have been down the same road; some of us have hit more bumps than others. Don't worry about "who you're supposed to be," because you are who you are. There are some great folks here that can help you on that journey, so browse around, pick some brains, and make some new friends along the way.
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thanks

trying to grasp the concept of coping (acting NT) and finding my true self. there has to be some balance there but have no idea where it is.
 
Welcome. Aspies (and gifteds, too) experience what is called asynchronous development. That means that we grow faster in some areas than we do in others. Parts of our thinking may reach adulthood earlier than NTs while other parts may never mature past childhood. Barring other mental issues, NTs typically outgrow their childishness and they hold that to be the norm.

Since we never completely lost all of our childishness, we have had to learn how to incorporate it into our lifestyle while still maintaining adulthood responsibilities. We have made him or her part of our process; a team effort. 3Legged Race
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Have you ever seen a three-legged race...?​

My adult side might be tracking objectives that have to be met, but when I encounter a "dilemma," I usually pass that "puzzle" to my child side to be solved. (While a dilemma might be frustrating, he really likes puzzles...! ;)) In trade, my adult side will carve out "play" time for my child side. Play promotes pleasure-learning which is both relaxing and sharpens problem-solving skills, making them available for use on still later real-world problems.

NTs no longer seek their child-side consultant, considering them to be regressive. (And they think that we are regressing when they see that we still embrace ours.) Of course, meltdowns can be a down side to this arrangement, but (as often as possible) I repackage overwhelming sources of frustration as another "puzzle" to be solved.
 
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Hi there and welcome to AC.

I hope you feel at home here, there are a lot of resources and some real nice people. :)
 
Hi and welcome! The confusion comes from faking it for years in order to fit in and not attract too much attention to one's weirdness, leaving you feeling like you are an empty shell with no insides - rest assured, there is a very real, highly developed, multi-faceted, intelligent and sensitive person in there.

Hope you find that person, and let their light shine forth!
 
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