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TheSocialNerd

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Hi guys,

My name's Ishan, and I just joined the forum. I'm 20 years old and from Melbourne, Australia. I was diagnosed with mild high functioning Asperger's 2 or 3 years ago - my therapist said I was on the borderline of being neurotypical. At first, it was a relief - it explained a lot of how I was as a kid and a teen. I'm still not ashamed to tell people I have Asperger's, but it does create significant challenges in my life along with some other mental issues such as PTSD and anxiety.

I'm a huge music fan, I'll listen to almost anything. I play guitar and sing, and I write my own songs. I also write poems, stories and screenplays. I'd like to make a career of one of these things, hard as it is, though I do struggle with disciplining myself to produce work. I'm currently studying creative writing at university, which I'm loving, and I'm also doing some music subjects on the side. Uni is really great, but I wish I could make more friends.

I struggle a lot socially. I find it hard to approach people and start conversations because I think they won't want to talk to me. Not picking up on social cues sometimes is also frustrating - I'm sure many of you know this. What I struggle with most, though, is being emotional. Again, this won't be news to anyone, but I've been told I lack empathy many times throughout my life. The trouble is, it's not true. I have incredible amounts of empathy and love for others. I'm very sensitive, and I feel that's the problem. Being how I am, the emotions become too much and I'm unable to process them and express them constructively. Because of this, I can seem cold. I hate this about me, and I feel its partly to blame for my social anxiety as well. If I could be more free with my emotions, I wouldn't struggle as much with approaching and conversing.

I've joined this forum to find a supportive community of people that can understand my issues and provide solutions (of course, I'm more than happy to help others as well). More importantly, it'd be great to make some new friends. The Aspie life can get a bit lonely, at least for me. Glad to be here!
 
Hi Ishan :)
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Welcome Ishan!

I encourage you not to hate the way you process emotions. The most important thing is that you DO have empathy. So many people in this world do not, and hide that fact from others. They may question your empathy to divert attention from their lack of it. I don't mean to sound negative. You know you're an empathetic individual, those that are intuitive, and caring, will know that.

We're glad you're here! Take care.
 
Welcome Ishan!

I encourage you not to hate the way you process emotions. The most important thing is that you DO have empathy. So many people in this world do not, and hide that fact from others. They may question your empathy to divert attention from their lack of it. I don't mean to sound negative. You know you're an empathetic individual, those that are intuitive, and caring, will know that.

We're glad you're here! Take care.

This was a lovely reply, thanks so much. This is definitely something I'm realising and trying to keep in mind, and it's been very helpful. Always good to be reminded though :)
 
Hi guys,

My name's Ishan, and I just joined the forum. I'm 20 years old and from Melbourne, Australia. I was diagnosed with mild high functioning Asperger's 2 or 3 years ago - my therapist said I was on the borderline of being neurotypical. At first, it was a relief - it explained a lot of how I was as a kid and a teen. I'm still not ashamed to tell people I have Asperger's, but it does create significant challenges in my life along with some other mental issues such as PTSD and anxiety.

I'm a huge music fan, I'll listen to almost anything. I play guitar and sing, and I write my own songs. I also write poems, stories and screenplays. I'd like to make a career of one of these things, hard as it is, though I do struggle with disciplining myself to produce work. I'm currently studying creative writing at university, which I'm loving, and I'm also doing some music subjects on the side. Uni is really great, but I wish I could make more friends.

I struggle a lot socially. I find it hard to approach people and start conversations because I think they won't want to talk to me. Not picking up on social cues sometimes is also frustrating - I'm sure many of you know this. What I struggle with most, though, is being emotional. Again, this won't be news to anyone, but I've been told I lack empathy many times throughout my life. The trouble is, it's not true. I have incredible amounts of empathy and love for others. I'm very sensitive, and I feel that's the problem. Being how I am, the emotions become too much and I'm unable to process them and express them constructively. Because of this, I can seem cold. I hate this about me, and I feel its partly to blame for my social anxiety as well. If I could be more free with my emotions, I wouldn't struggle as much with approaching and conversing.

I've joined this forum to find a supportive community of people that can understand my issues and provide solutions (of course, I'm more than happy to help others as well). More importantly, it'd be great to make some new friends. The Aspie life can get a bit lonely, at least for me. Glad to be here!

Welcome, Ishan. We are glad you are here and hope you find your time here as positive, revealing, and worthwile.
 

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