Guilt/Taken advantage of combination feelings

[mw2530]

Does anyone else have this weird combo feeling? Of feeling both guilty, but also feeling they are taken advantage of. One would think both of these feelings would come about from very different situations. But I often feel them both from the same situation.

For example, at work there are some job functions that I am not very good at or cannot do on a consistent basis. So I sometimes feel guilty about that. But on the other hand, I probably put up with more than most NT's would at my job and I work on projects that many others either don't want to do or are unable to do so.

So on the flip side, I sometimes feel like I get the shaft and am taken advantage of. Maybe both feelings is the result of being unappreciated or unaccepted for my contributions and who I am.

 

[Pats]

I feel guilty over everything. When I was working I used to do some things extra just because I liked doing them and if I had time. It became expected of me so I quit doing it and then felt guilty but still wouldn't do it.

 

[MrSpock]

...there are some job functions that I am not very good at or cannot do on a consistent basis.

...I work on projects that many others either don't want to do or are unable to do so.

Two different situations. Possibly they're part of some other thing that you might legitimately consider to be 'a situation', but so far as these feelings go, they sure sound separate to me, opposite nearly. I don't think you should be feeling guilty, you're part of a team, and that always means that others are carrying part of the load, and if you're particularly good at your part of it it stands to reason that they might be doing things that they're better at than you are. That's what good teamwork should look like.

 

[Suzanne]

I feel guilty too virtually all the time and mixed in with a sense of I am being taken advantage of and it is a most uncomfortable feeling.