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Hard to Balance

paloftoon

paloftoon

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I think one of the toughest things to realize and deal with is that you need different personalities for different environments. Like you still be you, but balance and letting things flow natural is the best for interacting among different work environments and social life.
 
Yeah, if you have problems with theory of mind this can be difficult. What might help is sitting down with a person, a family member or a friend who understands your difficulties and write a list down for the types of behaviours which are most appropriate in a given situation. That might still be difficult if you can't tell when a situation has changed, such as a working environment to a meal with colleagues one evening. But a list might allow you to play it safe. Gives me an idea actually.. Might have it write it down for if I ever start a YouTube channel.
 
Oh how I agree with that! I get so confused that I see a mental image of my head whizzing from side to side, on my neck.

My husband is trying to teach me the art of "small talk" and I am failing miserably. The reason he is trying, is because he reckons the reason why ones do not like to be around me much, is because when I talk, I go on and on and on. Partly true, especially when they trigger a favourite subject of mine and I do sense that I am lecturing.
 
I had to learn this the hard way. I messed up a date because my past and many of my prior work experiences made me overly negative. That wasn't entirely to blame, but a big portion of it. The other part was because of my lack of common sense for what is appropriate to ask. It's so weird that I didn't know, because I super function well in many capacities overall :( For the people that knew me, they could understand why I reacted as I did, but everyone was just sad all around.

That date had a ton in common with me. It's ashame it didn't work out to anything good. :(
 
If you were my ex-date's friend instead, do you think you would've just told him to stay the hell away from me without having the perspective of me as a person?
 
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