AuroraBorealis
Well-Known Member
This may sound weird, but I wonder whether I may have subconsciously trained myself to behave more autistically.
Since getting diagnosed (or diagnosing myself for good reasons), I stimmed a lot more than before. I was always a fidgeter for as long as I can remember, but I don't remember rocking with my upper body, or doing hand-flapping.
When I felt upset since being diagnosed, I sometimes consciously rocked with my upper body, just to see how it felt and whether it might be soothing (it was). Often it felt like I consciously started and then continued semi-automatically. With fidgeting, I would notice that my hands got restless and I played with my rings and other fingers, and I would take out a fidget toy. I have tried severl different fidget toys this way.
But, recently, I have caught myself rocking back and forth unconsciously in several situations. Mostly when I'm relaxed and doing something I enjoy, like reading or browsing on the computer, but also when I am tense or upset.
Yesterday I had quite a bad meltdown after a few very physically and socially demanding days, and shortly before, when it was still sort of building up, when my friend kept talking to me from the other room and I was overwhelmed, I caught myself flapping my hands without consciously starting it. I don't remember hand-flapping being "a thing" for me.
During the meltdown itself, while I fidgeted (consciously) and read a book (also calms me down during a meltdown), I caught myself rocking simultaneously. I also didn't start that consciously. The rocking was also sort of softer and slower than in the past.
It feels a bit confusing, to be honest. I have felt like a fraud often because I often stim consciously - it feels good and calming, but I start it consciously nevertheless. Just fidgeting is something I have always also started subconsciously. But never rocking or flapping. I unmasked continually in the past 9 months, so could it be related?
Can some of these things also start after realizing you're autistic? Can I just develop new ways to stim, like that? Or do you think I somehow trained myself into it? Can stimming also be conscious and on purpose, or is the very nature of autistic stimming that it's a subconscious, automatic response?
Thank you for your thoughts on this.
Edit: Sorry if this post is a bit confusing or messy. I just re-read it and feel like it might not be vey clear. If that's the case, please let me know. I am still somewhat blurry after those very demanding days, and my brain isn't back to normal yet.
Since getting diagnosed (or diagnosing myself for good reasons), I stimmed a lot more than before. I was always a fidgeter for as long as I can remember, but I don't remember rocking with my upper body, or doing hand-flapping.
When I felt upset since being diagnosed, I sometimes consciously rocked with my upper body, just to see how it felt and whether it might be soothing (it was). Often it felt like I consciously started and then continued semi-automatically. With fidgeting, I would notice that my hands got restless and I played with my rings and other fingers, and I would take out a fidget toy. I have tried severl different fidget toys this way.
But, recently, I have caught myself rocking back and forth unconsciously in several situations. Mostly when I'm relaxed and doing something I enjoy, like reading or browsing on the computer, but also when I am tense or upset.
Yesterday I had quite a bad meltdown after a few very physically and socially demanding days, and shortly before, when it was still sort of building up, when my friend kept talking to me from the other room and I was overwhelmed, I caught myself flapping my hands without consciously starting it. I don't remember hand-flapping being "a thing" for me.
During the meltdown itself, while I fidgeted (consciously) and read a book (also calms me down during a meltdown), I caught myself rocking simultaneously. I also didn't start that consciously. The rocking was also sort of softer and slower than in the past.
It feels a bit confusing, to be honest. I have felt like a fraud often because I often stim consciously - it feels good and calming, but I start it consciously nevertheless. Just fidgeting is something I have always also started subconsciously. But never rocking or flapping. I unmasked continually in the past 9 months, so could it be related?
Can some of these things also start after realizing you're autistic? Can I just develop new ways to stim, like that? Or do you think I somehow trained myself into it? Can stimming also be conscious and on purpose, or is the very nature of autistic stimming that it's a subconscious, automatic response?
Thank you for your thoughts on this.
Edit: Sorry if this post is a bit confusing or messy. I just re-read it and feel like it might not be vey clear. If that's the case, please let me know. I am still somewhat blurry after those very demanding days, and my brain isn't back to normal yet.