Have you been given clothes for Xmas that you hated wearing?

[Aspie_With_Attitude]

I have. It's all explained in my YouTube video how I was once given this regular t-shirt almost like a polo shirt except no collar, still had some buttons on it. This was to ultimately unexpected and this wasn't something I liked have worn since I only liked wearing regular graphics t-shirt like that "Sonic The Hedgehog" t-shirt or the green Marshall t-shirt as seen in this video content.

I believe it's not uncommon that autistic individuals are known to be given items of clothing for Christmas that don't work with their usual mould and out of their own style from they're like wearing. This is why I believe that anybody shouldn't g buying surprise clothes for autistic individuals and live to their own expectations that will be worn by an individual.

This may cause burn-outs or meltdowns on an autistic individual since it's overwhelming when an autistic individual are given clothes that are strange or alien from their personal preference of clothing that they feel more comfortable wearing.

Have you ever on any given Christmases or Birthdays did receive any clothes that you didn't ever want to wear as a gift?

 

[Kirsty]

No, but luckily I have the choice to wear a Christmas top given to me from my work. I like it, but I hate it on me.

 

[Mary Terry]

Yes, this seems to happen to me every Christmas. I still haven't even tried on a hoodie I received last year from some relatives because it is made with some kind of fake, petroleum-based cloth like polyester which I hate. I wish people would just give me gift certificates - or nothing - instead of trying to pick out clothes for me. I rarely like what others seem to envision me wearing.

 

[Tom]

I have recieved many clothes gifts over the years that I didn't like and wouldn't wear. I just put them aside and give them away to others who can use them or donate to salvation army.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

I would have liked receiving fashionable clothes for Christmas.

 

[Aneka]

When people decide to buy clothes as a present they usually go for the cheapest and low quality. Or they simply recycle old gifts which happens to most unwanted presents.
Generally, clothes are not a suitable present because you need to play the guessing game.

Thank them and smile. You don't need to wear it.

As we say in Germany: "Einem geschenkten Gaul schaut man nicht ins Maul"
(Don't look a horse you've been gifted in its mouth.)

 

[Aspychata]

Clothes. Omg. I hate hate hate people who dictate my clothing choices. I went thru some strange alternate universe where l have no say in my choices, so l just decided to stay home 9 years. Screw that. I have my big clothes that l love. Sometimes l like to dress tent like. Now that l am older, l am even more fussy. Probably from the Italien side of me. Italiens will live next to a garbage dump but have tailored clothes down to the correct hem and blindstitch done by hand.

 

[Suzette]

As we say in Germany: "Einem geschenkten Gaul schaut man nicht ins Maul"
(Don't look a horse you've been gifted in its mouth.)

Oh, the way you say this phrase makes so much more sense than how my mother says it. She always says "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth." I think her phrasing is just weird and I had no idea what she really meant!

 

[Ken]

Yes.

 

[watersprite]

Yes. Sometimes they get made into useful items, like rags for paint or washing the car. Or if not, then into my favorite charity’s clothes doation box.

 

[Fino]

I typically either gave it back to them or threw it away.

 

[Captain Jigglypuff]

A couple times growing up but I can’t remember which ones I truly hated. I think there was this one time in high school where I was given some name brand socks that were extremely short and I hated them because they weren’t crew socks and I purposely made holes in them just so I could get rid of them. And there was another time I got some Jean shorts from some name brand designer that were so thin that in less than a year a hole appeared in them.

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

I grew up roughly 75 miles from the Mexican border. There were some very sweet old ladies in my life that always made sure I had a hand knit wool sweater. Yes, desert nights could be downright cold, but the days, even in Winter, rarely ever dropped below 50.

In the chilly mornings, I'd wear it to the school bus to show my grandma that I appreciated the gift, because she so wanted me to be warm. But at school, I'd take it off when the sun came out, as it would get hot and itchy. (The matching socks were a little harder to deal with when it got hot, lol).

The most important thing is to be a cheerful receiver, because people put their time, effort, and money into their gifts. See them as gestures of friendship and love, rather than an annoying gift that you don't like.

If it doesn't fit, I'd take it back, but otherwise, I would wear something someone got me, the next time that they came over, to show I appreciated it. Besides, I don't have a lot of nice things, and a new garment would be so treasured, even if it wasn't my style.

 

[Gerontius]

I was given a few things I might not usually wear--a pair of pyjama bottoms a trifle too large at the waist, a toque, and a white shirt with the neck size wide enough to fit a mule if a mule wore neckties.

The thing about these kinds of gifts is that they were given out of someone's desire to be kind. So what I see about it is, it's some of the few pieces of modern clothing I own. Everything else is pure 1930 (or earlier, perhaps 1860-1890.) So if I'm doing something where I may want to blend in a little better--this works perfectly!

The pyjamas can be taken in a bit, as nobody sees me in those-- the shirt will work for casual days where I don't have a tie on-- and the hat will be perfectly serviceable, if not exactly stylish. And it's the modern style anyway so I will blend in (if I wasn't wearing eyeglasses and boots that went out of style in 1910 but that's a personal problem.)

I always try to be OK with gifts even though I hate receiving gifts--Most of this is my low self-esteem and low regard/disbelief that I can be liked or loved by other people. This is partially why I have trouble dating, too! I think it's ingrained for autistic people in the USA particularly that we are automatically "less than" the idealized standard on which we place everyone else.
(Edit -- Gifts of food are awkward; I don't mean the old idea of 'hey here's a casserole' but some people lately have been trying to get me to put on weight. Pisses me off. Bad idea, folks.)