Having some trouble with answering questions...

[granolaturtle]

"One day I'm going to record you so you can hear what you sound like when you're trying to answer my questions about this..."

I feel like I'm always wrong, no matter how I try to answer. I know it must be frustrating for my parents. I hate it when they ask something like "when is your final exam," and I just say, "On Wednesday". That's my math exam and I know when it is because it's the one I have to focus on.

But then, "When is your English Exam,", "When is your Holocaust exam," and I can't tell them exactly. I fumble over my words, desperately try to get it right but I don't know. I can't tell them that, though. I also can't tell them what my schedule is supposed to be tomorrow - I figure that sort of thing out the day of the strange schedule.

They ask, "When is your paper due,", I say, "At the end of the semester,". Then, "When is the end of the semester?". And I'll respond, "It's Thursday, isn't it?" And I don't want to be wrong. I really don't. But I was certain until they asked.

They'll ask how much of the paper I got done and how long it'll take for me to finish it. But I can't tell them? I couldn't possibly know. They quickly get frustrated when asking me questions and I get stressed out.

It always ends in them lecturing me, but the situation never improves.

Anyone else have problems like this?

 

[garnetflower13]

I think that this type of questioning contributed to my having dyscalculia later on. At first I could do math fairly quickly; my mind would make a leap that was not apparent to others, so I was accused of cheating and ordered to explain my work. This caused me to doubt myself, and voila! Now I have dyscalculia. At least that is a pet theory of mine. I cannot always explain how my mind works to others, so yeah, I can relate!

 

[granolaturtle]

What is dyscalculia?

 

[Mia]

They quickly get frustrated when asking me questions and I get stressed out.

Do you know granolaturtle that asking questions is well and good when it's something that truly helps you with information, but, it's also a control mechanism. The question is asked and the questioned is essentially at the mercy of the questioner. It holds you in its hands so to speak and makes you subject to someone else's will.

My Mother in law was like that, she would ask in a day over thirty questions while with you or on the phone. She was much like a stazi police detective, where are you going, what time is it, what are you eating, what did you have for dinner? These questions went on and on, and were her opening for a monologue of any kind. After years of this excuse for a conversation, I stopped answering.

In fact I stonewalled her, changed the subject, didn't answer, walked away, washed my hands, looked in a cupboard, becoming a master at avoiding her continual invasive questions. Eventually I got to the point of answering a question with a question; Why do you want to know? Often this stopped her, and she rarely had anything but the vaguest answer. Eventually the behavior stopped when I said that. Seems to me unless there is some real purpose for a question, it does not have to be answered.

 

[Datura]

What is dyscalculia?

It is a learning disability effecting ones ability to do math.

 

[Butterfly88]

I can relate. I see someone in the hallway and they say "hi", either I say hi back so softly they can't hear me or by the time I say hi in a normal voice they've already passed me. I think it's an executive functioning thing. I also mix up the dates things are due, probably another executive functioning thing.

 

[AspiePie]

My school actually let me at points not show my work? Your lives suck!

 

[Suzanne]

I hate being asked how I am. I really have no idea how to answer, because it is not static. So I end up saying. Ok, thanks and wanting to escape.

I am also generally dreadful with questions anyway.

 

[Beverly]

I don't mind being asked questions until the person asking starts repeating the questions or, rephrasing them, or obstinately replies as if they don't understand my answer repeatedly. Then I get angry and, either tell them what I think of their questions and their thick skulls and, their inability to listen or, I walk away.

Sometimes I don't dare respond as I would like, it would cause problem I nor my PR people need to be forced to deal with so, I have to hush and make a polite excuse to walk away.

 

[NovaScotia Aspie]

My receptive language skills are not as good as my expressive . Since I struggle with eye contact and my hearing isn't that good I often have a hard time deciphering what someone actually said to me .