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Fern_14

Fern_14

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Hi, I made an account here several years ago when I first started questioning if I could be autistic. (In my first post I explain what my experience is like, if you want to read.)

https://www.autismforums.com/threads/hi-i-have-a-question.33892/
I tried asking a doctor I met once if I should get tested and she said no, that I wasn't autistic, because I was able to make eye contact. I was masking at the time, and did not feel comfortable with the eye contact. But I couldn't express this to her because I really struggle with expressing things to doctors effectively. I was feeling really upset, and I just cried for the rest of the appointment and left and never went back.

After this appointment I tried to live my life as neurotypical. But I was (and still am) constantly stressed from the overstimulation and overexertion and masking. It got a lot worse after starting college. I am revisiting the potential that I am autistic again, but I am nervous to go get tested because I am scared of being dismissed again.

I'm not sure how to end this post...but I am looking forward to talking with you all :)
 
Hello Fern, with a little green frog on a rose petal. So very lovely. Glad to have you back.

Women have a more difficult time getting and accurate diagnosis. This is well known, but not yet well remedied. Do you have a specific need for a positive diagnosis?
 
WhitewaterWoman said:
Hello Fern, with a little green frog on a rose petal. So very lovely. Glad to have you back.

Women have a more difficult time getting and accurate diagnosis. This is well known, but not yet well remedied. Do you have a specific need for a positive diagnosis?
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Thank you, I am glad to be back!

My gender identity itself is not female but I was born female and have most people assume that I am. So yeah, I've really struggled with getting doctors to understand me and take me seriously.

It's not quite that I need a diagnosis, but I wish it could be "officially" confirmed. I feel like it's not okay for me to say I am autistic without a diagnosis. Even though I know it is technically okay, and I have no problems with other people doing it. I just hesitate to do it myself, in case I am wrong. Even though I relate so much to people here and autistic experiences in general, I worry I am somehow wrong and misleading myself.

I have accommodations at college for my other health conditions, so that part isn't an issue.
 
Fern_14 said:
Thank you, I am glad to be back!

My gender identity itself is not female but I was born female and have most people assume that I am. So yeah, I've really struggled with getting doctors to understand me and take me seriously.
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What gender and pronouns do you prefer?
Fern_14 said:
It's not quite that I need a diagnosis, but I wish it could be "officially" confirmed. I feel like it's not okay for me to say I am autistic without a diagnosis. Even though I know it is technically okay, and I have no problems with other people doing it. I just hesitate to do it myself, in case I am wrong. Even though I relate so much to people here and autistic experiences in general, I worry I am somehow wrong and misleading myself.

I have accommodations at college for my other health conditions, so that part isn't an issue.
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If you don’t need accommodations, it sounds like there isn’t an urgent practical need for a diagnosis. You might want to hang around here for a while and see how the label fits you. Then you might have more confidence when approaching a doctor.

At any rate, glad to have you hear.
 
KevinMao133 said:
Hey welcome back!
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Thank you!

Aspychata said:
Alright, great to meet you. Welcome back.
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Nice to meet you as well, thank you!

WhitewaterWoman said:
What gender and pronouns do you prefer?

If you don’t need accommodations, it sounds like there isn’t an urgent practical need for a diagnosis. You might want to hang around here for a while and see how the label fits you. Then you might have more confidence when approaching a doctor.

At any rate, glad to have you hear.
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My gender is a little confusing, but I think I prefer he/him pronouns.
You are right. After reading your post I realized it's okay to take my time on this journey and approach a doctor if/when I feel ready to. Thank you for your help!
 
Fern_14 said:
Thank you!


Nice to meet you as well, thank you!


My gender is a little confusing, but I think I prefer he/him pronouns.
You are right. After reading your post I realized it's okay to take my time on this journey and approach a doctor if/when I feel ready to. Thank you for your help!
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He/him it is!
 
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