Hi, I am new here. 4 grad degrees from all different unis, I am fully (near) native bilingual, and have bits (2-5 years) of other languages, my intellect has helped me cover up for decades though I always knew I was different. Sometimes, 'friends' of 10 years or more would just suddenly vanish. The ones that stick are, well, similar to me.
I recently had some communication issues at work that made no sense to me. Then, I only followed a comment that described my communication style (using parentheses for context etc.) as neurodivergent, which I happened to see on a FB group only last week.
This, of course, triggered a new interest I intend to master. I score 43 on AQ (26 would suffice for someone with autistic traits, and 32 would be extremely sensitive for females), and most of my features are entirely on the Aspie side (Aspie test). My personal theory is that my IQ and willpower helped overwrite my social and hyper-sensory issues.
I am starting to get formally diagnosed (my MD recommends) to address, understand better, and protect my income and livelihood - I work in a tech, male-dominated, hostile environment but have been able to do so entirely remotely at this time. I am also starting to work with an ASD coach.
It makes sense to me that ASD is genetic - one parent (who, in hindsight review, was also dyslexic and mildly dyspraxic, the latter I share) and one of their parents (I was told never to become like her - as if that were a choice or preference - and I loved her to pieces), all three of us very strong, almost indestructible mentally.
Over the decades, I tried to figure out my suffering and have been misdiagnosed and mistreated since nobody knew better, and like probably many of you, I react paradoxically to many medications. Some abuse I stumbled into was outright dangerous but I survived.
I got married to be left alone, and we live with our cats in relative peace. It only feels lonely when people reject me for no good enough reason. I started embracing my inner child and frankly, that has been such fun.
Anyway, hello
I recently had some communication issues at work that made no sense to me. Then, I only followed a comment that described my communication style (using parentheses for context etc.) as neurodivergent, which I happened to see on a FB group only last week.
This, of course, triggered a new interest I intend to master. I score 43 on AQ (26 would suffice for someone with autistic traits, and 32 would be extremely sensitive for females), and most of my features are entirely on the Aspie side (Aspie test). My personal theory is that my IQ and willpower helped overwrite my social and hyper-sensory issues.
I am starting to get formally diagnosed (my MD recommends) to address, understand better, and protect my income and livelihood - I work in a tech, male-dominated, hostile environment but have been able to do so entirely remotely at this time. I am also starting to work with an ASD coach.
It makes sense to me that ASD is genetic - one parent (who, in hindsight review, was also dyslexic and mildly dyspraxic, the latter I share) and one of their parents (I was told never to become like her - as if that were a choice or preference - and I loved her to pieces), all three of us very strong, almost indestructible mentally.
Over the decades, I tried to figure out my suffering and have been misdiagnosed and mistreated since nobody knew better, and like probably many of you, I react paradoxically to many medications. Some abuse I stumbled into was outright dangerous but I survived.
I got married to be left alone, and we live with our cats in relative peace. It only feels lonely when people reject me for no good enough reason. I started embracing my inner child and frankly, that has been such fun.
Anyway, hello
