Hello from Shiroi Tora

[Shiroi Tora]

I am the very proud father of a 2E Child (Asperger's / Profoundly Gifted). I hope to share positive discourse with a wide variety of persons...both to share...and to learn.

I am 50 yrs. old and I have lived life with morals in mind. I am Atheist ("A" as in simply not theist). I shall be presenting rational arguments from a pragmatic perspective. I only bring up not being theist so as to not confuse people when I speak of morals.

Most of what I shall speak of is borne of experience. The exception is when I speak of any afflictions. I have never really experienced depression (rarely do I even get situationally depressed..if so, nothing more than a few moments...and nothing severe...I have never experienced clinical depression).

I don't speak out of malice. I have, however, been accused of having a large ego. Having said that, I don't think I am arrogant (arrogance is not very often self recognized though is it?

).

I am a Correctional Officer (22+ yrs). I have worked under a wide variety of settings and situations. I have also worked for almost 3 years in an Acute Psychiatric Ward as a Correctional Officer. Many of my observations come from there.

 

[superboyian]

Hey Shiroi Tora, welcome to Aspies Central.

Enjoy your time here and happy posting.

I've noticed you worked at a Acute Psychiatric Ward for almost 3 years, what's your experience like and what do you think of it if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Shiroi Tora]

The Acute Psychiatric Ward was in our Jail System. It had 2 Officers..2 full time Psychiatric Nurses...and a Psy. Doctor there during the day time. It was never boring...you simply could never know what would happen. There were a variety of inmates that were extremely depressed...clinically. Quite a few attempted suicide...and a few actually made it to death..not on my shift though. A few were Psychotic...they couldn't tell reality from fantasy. Some were having problems with the side effects of their medications....and so would sleep all day and night. Others would continuously pace back and forth in their cell. Most of our attacks on staff came from this ward.

I feel for the ones in life...through no fault of their own...cannot do for themselves. However, it plain pisses me off to see others in life that choose not to do for themselves ...when they very well can....and simply do not.

 

[Leiservampir]

Welcome to Aspiescentral!

 

[superboyian]

That's actually one heck of a job, although you're probably getting good pay jobs for it?

I know somebody in one of those wards and he would think everybody is chewbacca and he did smoke a heck of alot, no matter what medication he had, there was practically nothing they could do?

But it's interesting to see that you came in to know about aspergers & autism and about your son's diagnosis (been reading the blogs on your profile) and you'd hopefully be able to find your answers here.

 

[landlubber]

Hi. I thought I recognised your large ego on Aspie Paradise.

 

[GhettoButterFly]

Welcome to the Central Shiroi Tora. I have no comical welcomes for you unfortunately. You're job seems scary though. :S I wouldn't last a day as a correctional officer or even as a cop.

 

[Shiroi Tora]

Ah...yes. Thank you all....and yes...my rather large ego cannot be confined by myself....much less by one forum!

 

[Droopy]

Welcome to the forums! Interesting introduction and it's good to have a parent of an Aspergers child on the forum.

Enjoy your stay here.

 

[Shiroi Tora]

Thanks again.

 

[142857]

Hi Shiroi Tora,

We are already acquainted from our banter on other threads.

You and I are very similar and very different at the same time.

I also have a very large ego, one which I usually manage to hide in real life - usually without even trying to. Sometimes it comes in handy. I think that a thread about our enormous egos would be interesting (I am not taking the piss here, I am serious). I could relate some stories of times when it has served me (and others) well, like the time my ego singlehandedly rescued a $100M+ IT project. And yet most people think that I am humble,.Which pisses me off big time. I'm not humble, I just can't help appearing that way in real life. But we'll save that for the ego thread.

In terms of your aspie son, I'm probably more autistic than aspie but I can relate. You see, a gifted aspie is usually burdened with at least as much in the way of challenges as gifts. To most people that know me, they see my gifts as something that I am blessed with, something that I didn't really have to work for, which is true to a large extent. At the same time they see my challenges as a mixture of laziness, stupidity, cowardice, you name it. .

btw, apologies for not reading your blogs yet. How old is your son? What are his gifts and what are his challenges? Is he a "little professor"? My son shows many signs of being an Aspie, so I can probably relate to a lot of what you are going through and vice versa.

 

[Shiroi Tora]

I am game for any thread...however, I can only answer with any length on Wed-Fri nights and every other Sat night also. Those are my off days. I work 3 (days) on and 3 off then 4 on and 4 off.

Please read the blog when you get a chance - even if only one article at a time - it is best to start at the intro (in the archives in May) and work your way forward.

Alex (my son) is high across the board...but he is Profoundly gifted in math. He is 9 yrs. old. He loves using adult vocabulary...so he does sound like a little professor at times. He has no major challenges as my wife is an exceptional mother. She looks for any weakness and works on it with him...all the while furthering his strengths. Early ABA therapy and my wife's follow through has dealt with many things that could have gotten bad had he not had the therapy (in home 35-40 hrs. a week from 3 yrs. old till 5 yrs. and tapering off until completely off at age 9 yrs.). He is now home schooled as his elementary school couldn't keep up with his thirst for knowledge.

I am sure you will be able to relate to many things in the blog...including more of my big ego!

 

[142857]

I will kick off a thread about my ego, and we can maybe get into some ego envy. Beats the other kind of envy I guess.

I'm in a pretty lousy position regarding getting any meaningful therapy for my son, being based in a 3rd world country and all. I was just telling my wife tonight that when the job market improves sufficiently I want to move back to my hometown (Sydney, Australia). The details on the sort of challenges I think my son faces and how that can best be dealt with certainly deserves its own thread. My wife is terribly worried about our son ever since my youngest brother (the 40 year old couch surfer with the off-the-charts IQ) has been staying with us. My son and his uncle are like two peas in a pod. Fortunately my son won't have to wait until he is 40 and for his big brother to tell him that he has executive dysfunction - we are aware of it now and we can start working on giving our son structure and coping strategies now..

 

[Shiroi Tora]

I have lain out some of the ABA therapy in my Blog. My wife has been such a great help in working on and accelerating our son in, both, academics and his Executive Function deficits. My wife has a blog in Japanese for all the mothers in Japan with 2E children but are without services. She goes over what she has been doing so they may do for their children. She is the power house of knowledge on successful therapy on our son. Please feel free to E-mail me with any questions (click on my avatar to get to the E-mail section)...I will relay them to her and I shall e-mail you with her replies.

I shall look forward to your post and E-mail.