Hello from the lost

[Merry]

I'm 44 and I was diagnosed less than a year ago. A lot of things fell into place for me then, but the diagnosis has left me with the problem of what to do now to fix the things that are wrong with my life. I've managed to make a bit of a hash of my life to this point. I can blame unsympathetic (and often hostile) NT parents for a large portion of my issues, but the rest come down to trying to do what I could see the NT people around me doing whilst being unaware of my deficits. As a result I have 3 degrees and portions of many others, a large student debt, no job, social anxiety, two broken marriages with poorly chosen partners, and various current difficulties due to taking people at their word when apparently they were just making conversation. Plus children who need me to be on top of things and adulting successfully. I'm generally an optimist but life is feeling pretty difficult at the moment.

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

The trite still thing I can think of to say is :
Turn that frown upside down.

Don’t you hate that? I do.

Every chose wallpaper or what colour to paint a room? (2 wives highly likely)?
I used to think there were seven colors until that day.
What colour was that? Green. No that was......

The thing is there are as many colors in the paint shop as there are ways to make a hash of your life.
You stick around you’ll see many different varieties and flavours of hash.
Everybody’s unique, but lots in a similar position.
Lost , old (man you’re old at 44)
Did you say hopeless? Or was I thinking of myself again....

Newly ‘realised’ - things are easier with help, you can find that, right here.

Just not from me, as I’m hopeless

 

[Merry]

That would be 2 husbands as I'm female

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

That would be 2 husbands as I'm female

Told you I was hopeless

 

[Nitro]

 

[Gracey]

Hello Merry

Welcome.

You get to choose what happens from here on in.
I'd imagine your self evaluation has left you feeling quite deflated and bewildered as to where you're headed next.

It is what it is.

The unavailability of time machines make it impossible to change the past.

There's nothing to say you can't 'regroup' or 'reboot' and start moving forward from this second onwards.

I wish you well and hope you find what you're looking for

 

[Streetwise]

Welcome

 

[Bolletje]

Welcome! I wanted to say something trite, but @Fridgemagnetman beat me to it. Now I have to say something real... So here goes:

As mentioned so eloquently by the aforementioned fridgemagnetman, there are many ways to make a hash of your life. But now that you know what caused it, I'm hoping it will get easier for you to get back on top of things. Figuring out what works for you, and what doesn't. Figuring out your own user manual, basically.

Of course, problems never come alone. Being in debt and out of a job, while having to be a responsible adult and an active parent, while trying to figure all these things out is a bit much, to say the least. Do you have any professional help for your mental health at the moment?

 

[Tom]

Hi & Welcome,
I hope the conversation with other Aspies is helpful for you.

 

[tree]

 

[Warmheart]

Welcome here! Thanks for joining us.

 

[Sabrina]

Welcome!
This community is excellent at lending an emotional hand. Stay around.

 

[xudo]

Welcome

 

[LucyPurrs]

Told you I was hopeless

nah you're not.

 

[Merry]

Thank you all for the welcome. No professional help, just me in my own head, not helped right now by the military planes doing manoeuvres over my house. How anyone can think that sort of thing is acceptable is beyond me.

 

[Myway]

Hello and Welcome to AC.