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Galactic Turtle

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Hello humans.

I'm not exactly sure if I'm supposed to be here or not. I'm 23 years old and I guess I'd never thought about this type of stuff before. A little while ago I suppose my parents all of a sudden just kind of... exploded at me talking about how difficult it has always been with a very, very, very long list of things I do and how I act and how I just need to grow out of a bunch of different things and they don't understand why that's not happening then they started talking about this thing called ASD and how all while growing up teachers and doctors and camp counselors and pretty much everyone had always called the house multiple times about me but they didn't want to go down that route because I guess... I don't know. Because yeah I knew I wasn't exactly like my sister or any of her friends but I didn't think it was a problem? Because isn't everyone different? Maybe they're overreacting. I felt bad though.

And I was planning to just kind of ignore the entire thing but then it started popping up with other people and I asked a friend too so I figured I was just out of the loop more than I usually am.

So I guess I'm just gathering up the courage to delve into this a bit myself. I really can't stand doctors and I figured I've navigated through life this far that whatever help there could've possibly been I did it myself. I really don't know. I guess I'm just saying hi. Hopefully I'm not intruding. I'll spend the rest of my time here lurking most likely. I figured joining this forum couldn't hurt.

Anywho, hi.
 
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Galactic Turtle said:
Hello humans.

I'm not exactly sure if I'm supposed to be here or not. I'm 23 years old and I guess I'd never thought about this type of stuff before. A little while ago I suppose my parents all of a sudden just kind of... exploded at me talking about how difficult it has always been with a very, very, very long list of things I do and how I act and how I just need to grow out of a bunch of different things and they don't understand why that's not happening then they started talking about this thing called ASD and how all while growing up teachers and doctors and camp counselors and pretty much everyone had always called the house multiple times about me but they didn't want to go down that route because I guess... I don't know. Because yeah I knew I wasn't exactly like my sister or any of her friends but I didn't think it was a problem? Because isn't everyone different? Maybe they're overreacting. I felt bad though.

And I was planning to just kind of ignore the entire thing but then it started popping up with other people and I asked a friend too so I figured I was just out of the loop more than I usually am.

So I guess I'm just gathering up the courage to delve into this a bit myself. I really can't stand doctors and I figured I've navigated through life this far that whatever help there could've possibly been I did it myself. I really don't know. I guess I'm just saying hi. Hopefully I'm not intruding. I'll spend the rest of my time here lurking most likely. I figured joining this forum couldn't hurt.

Anywho, hi.
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Hi Galactic Turtle. Welcome to AF!!!

I am sorry your parents ambushed then dumped grievances on you all of a sudden. That is always a tough experience.

Lurk away if that is all you really want to do. This is a common activity for Aspies. The majority of our members do a lot of lurking. It will probably be more informative and even fun if you decide to participate here a little, though. Who knows? You might even make some friends here.
 
Frankly, your parents should be ashamed of themselves. Multiple calls across years and they did nothing, only to dump it all on you after the fact? That's kind BS. Doesn't make them bad people or bad parents but they could have handled it way better.
 
wight said:
Frankly, your parents should be ashamed of themselves. Multiple calls across years and they did nothing, only to dump it all on you after the fact? That's kind BS. Doesn't make them bad people or bad parents but they could have handled it way better.
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My mom never pointed anything out to me, but as soon as I got married she told my wife that I needed mental help. THANKS MOM!
 
Alaska said:
Hi Galactic Turtle. Welcome to AF!!!

I am sorry your parents ambushed then dumped grievances on you all of a sudden. That is always a tough experience.

Lurk away if that is all you really want to do. This is a common activity for Aspies. The majority of our members do a lot of lurking. It will probably be more informative and even fun if you decide to participate here a little, though. Who knows? You might even make some friends here.
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I shall! Perhaps. this point I'm really not sure what to say. @__@ I legitimately know nothing. I'm out of college too. Not sure how I'm supposed to change the way I think though.

wight said:
Frankly, your parents should be ashamed of themselves. Multiple calls across years and they did nothing, only to dump it all on you after the fact? That's kind BS. Doesn't make them bad people or bad parents but they could have handled it way better.
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They said they didn't want me to grow up with anything because apparently it's a stigma? The main thing they're upset about is that I won't let anybody touch me.

WittyAspie said:
My mom never pointed anything out to me, but as soon as I got married she told my wife that I needed mental help. THANKS MOM!
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Oh no! Hopefully everything turned out ok!

Thanks everyone for the welcoming messages.
 
Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself, or guilty. They knew that something was going on, but for their own reasons, didn't address it with a doctor. None of that is your fault, and they have no right coming at you like that. My parents were the same in that they never took my teachers and babysitters seriously that something was up. I was diagnosed at 34, and too old for any kind of intervention, so I came here as well for answers, chats, etc ;) So anyway! Welcome! You'll like it here :)
 
Hello galacto-turt! Welcome - and nice to meet you =)) I very much like your introductionary story! It's nice and smooth, so very calm and somehow irresistibly mellow and kind-hearted (Maybe I'm mistaken and yes, I am projecting my cheesy imagination) Yet, I instantly took a liking to you. Indeed, if so many people raise this matter and have raised it in the past (and it does take some knowledge to recognize, doesn't it) - without you ever noticing it - you must be a suspiciously superautistic individual or better: an archaic autistic archetype, who lacks awareness near to being blind, but who innocently radiates autistic ray of extreme intensity. I can't deny, that I would be very much interested in that long list of proposed autistic things you do... ^^
 
isthisreallife said:
Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself, or guilty. They knew that something was going on, but for their own reasons, didn't address it with a doctor. None of that is your fault, and they have no right coming at you like that. My parents were the same in that they never took my teachers and babysitters seriously that something was up. I was diagnosed at 34, and too old for any kind of intervention, so I came here as well for answers, chats, etc ;) So anyway! Welcome! You'll like it here :)
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Ah ok! Indeed I thought it might be at least helpful to look around to see what's what!

bbc-bananasplit said:
Hello galacto-turt! Welcome - and nice to meet you =)) I very much like your introductionary story! It's nice and smooth, so very calm and somehow irresistibly mellow and kind-hearted (Maybe I'm mistaken and yes, I am projecting my cheesy imagination) Yet, I instantly took a liking to you. Indeed, if so many people raise this matter and have raised it in the past (and it does take some knowledge to recognize, doesn't it) - without you ever noticing it - you must be a suspiciously superautistic individual or better: an archaic autistic archetype, who lacks awareness near to being blind, but who innocently radiates autistic ray of extreme intensity. I can't deny, that I would be very much interested in that long list of proposed autistic things you do... ^^
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If you think so. @_@ I'm not sure if their suspicions are true or not, just thought I'd investigate a little bit. I don't think I'm blind? I just didn't think the issues they mentioned were really that much of a problem. They're the most frustrated by the fact that I never let them or anyone else touch me. Not sure if that's part of anything or not. I mean I finished school and did better than most people. Granted I don't know much about any of this yet.
 
Why won't you let people touch you? I ask because that could be a clue as to the validity of your parent's suspicions.
 
Datura said:
Why won't you let people touch you? I ask because that could be a clue as to the validity of your parent's suspicions.
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I just don't like it. I never have. It feels incorrect. They connected it to when I was younger fussing if socks weren't put on the right way or putting clothes on over my head of course those two later things don't bother me much anymore. Like I don't care about sock alignment that much at all but do wear button ups or polo shirts so the opening can be wide when I put them over my head. For everything else I just kinda suck in my breath and get it over with without issue. They suspect it's because I had birth complications...?
 
Hello and welcome.
At the end of the day, a diagnosis helps to better understand what's going on. For me it was a relief to find out.

On the other hand if you have 'symptoms' and the tips and tricks you may find here are useful and make things easier for you, then that's already a win right there :-)
 
OlLiE said:
Hello and welcome.
At the end of the day, a diagnosis helps to better understand what's going on. For me it was a relief to find out.

On the other hand if you have 'symptoms' and the tips and tricks you may find here are useful and make things easier for you, then that's already a win right there :)
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Okies. Thank you! I'll keep poking around.
 
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