Hi all I am new here, as of this moment I am a mom of 6 children, one who is 16, and is on the spectrum, and has HFA(or Aspergers). We just found out a couple of months ago. This is my oldest child, my only son. I also have 5 daughters, and out of those 5 I believe we have 3 that also are on the spectrum(but have yet to be tested due to insurance not covering this testing). My son is not on any medications, and he doesn't think he needs them, and to be honest we have made it this far in his life without them, why would he? I have yet to figure out were we go from here. It's like ok he has HFA, we are trying to do some different parenting with him, but our main concern is his schooling right now. He refuses to do work, says it's boring, I have had a meeting with his school to see if we might need an IEP or a 504plan, but have yet to really get very far. He is very brilliant, but I just don't know how to motivate him, as he sees everything due to logic, saying why do the work if I can ace the test and pass with a low grade. He also seems to get emotional when he talks about doing something he enjoys if there seems to be a road block, but wont ask for help, or even look for another way to get threw. He wants so much to work with computers in his future, and sees that there are these programs set up that give him an in to the world of computers(or gaming)but doesn't think that college is going to help him. So many people out there are doing this type of thing, how in the world am I going to help him achieve these goals for himself? Our local school doesn't really have any computer classes that are of any help, as it seems he already really knows them. I just need some insight I guess. I am not really into computers or games, and the things he is interested in I don't really understand. I try to gain some knowledge so we can discuss things. He is looking into some type of program(I say this lightly cuz to be honest I can't remember the name)that he has to get several people on board to participate in to get a scholorship, but we don't really know anyone with these skills, and the schools in our area don't really have classes for the stuff. I just want to help him but also want to be realistic, and I'm not sure how to do both.
Now as for my daughters they are all probably HFA as well...some higher than others. Our twins are 5, and there sister who is 8, all keep me running around like a chicken with my head cut off. They have done everything from playing in poo and wiping it on floors and walls, to stealing food out of the fridge(and believe me when I say they get plenty). Our 8 year old still doesn't sleep threw the night. We have emotions all over the place with these girls. Spitting, and agression...it's like the respond to someone who hurts there feelings(even though it may of not been on purpose)by lashing out. Volume control is an issue for them, and clothes are always everywhere. They also do not own one single toy that they have not torn up, taken apart. I struggle with them everyday. I'm not really that stressed about it all, as I have come to see all this as them. Were others may not understand I have always just thought of all this as something to work threw, and figure out. I guess with them I am more tired than anything. It's nice though this year I get to have time to myself for the first time in 16 years...all of my children are of school age. I do tend to spend alot of time with IEP's and talking to the special ed teachers, and the regular teachers, and on homework.
Just here looking for insight, and information, and to make connections for my children. Thanks for reading.
Now as for my daughters they are all probably HFA as well...some higher than others. Our twins are 5, and there sister who is 8, all keep me running around like a chicken with my head cut off. They have done everything from playing in poo and wiping it on floors and walls, to stealing food out of the fridge(and believe me when I say they get plenty). Our 8 year old still doesn't sleep threw the night. We have emotions all over the place with these girls. Spitting, and agression...it's like the respond to someone who hurts there feelings(even though it may of not been on purpose)by lashing out. Volume control is an issue for them, and clothes are always everywhere. They also do not own one single toy that they have not torn up, taken apart. I struggle with them everyday. I'm not really that stressed about it all, as I have come to see all this as them. Were others may not understand I have always just thought of all this as something to work threw, and figure out. I guess with them I am more tired than anything. It's nice though this year I get to have time to myself for the first time in 16 years...all of my children are of school age. I do tend to spend alot of time with IEP's and talking to the special ed teachers, and the regular teachers, and on homework.
Just here looking for insight, and information, and to make connections for my children. Thanks for reading.
im a 23-year old who just graduated college but i wasnt very motivated in high school either. id be happy to talk more about ways to help your son navigate his future!
