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Ennabir

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It's not easy to try to introduce myself. I am very much having trouble trusting my expression because of not being very successful with the NT's in my life. I am older already, 48 years old, and having been trying and trying all my life, I think I got a sort of a burnout. I was good at reading the rules when I could limit my contact with a certain amount of people. Now it goes fine when I meet people the first or the second time, then it just goes downhill from there and then I obsess about what I have done wrong. Most of the time I don't even know it, and people do not like tell me either, so the obsessing goes on longer. I think I am about to learn how not to care anymore, at least I hope so. Considering also starting the diagnoses procedure, just not started it yet.

Luckily I have got a partner that is not so very normal either, and having him in my life, keeps my head above the water. I don't work anymore, I can't even think about having to perform anymore without getting into some serious sorrow zone. Last 6 years I've tried to be friends with 6 different women of different ages at different times and if it has not gone wrong because I have not been the way they consider a friend should be, then it has been about different values I have had or the different way I understand things. It's too much work for me, and I think I better stop trying all together, with NT's that is. I hope I can here try to practice "speaking" again, at least daring to say something at times.

I'm into Metaphysics, mostly out of the box type. Used to love science fiction, still do, but I don't care about the violence that is added to everything. So, I read a lot, there I can easily skip pages I don't like. IT is also an interest. That's it for now :nerd::wink::coffee:
 
Welcome :D

Sorry to hear you've been having a rough time. You'll find everyone on here is rather lovely, and encouraging. If you read through many of the posts, you will probably feel a bit more comfortable.
 
Welcome to AC, Ennabir. I can certainly relate to your introduction. Thanks for sharing. Hope you can gain some insight about it all from this site. I know I have.
 
Ennabir, I'm so pleased to welcome you to our aspiescentral family. The best thing about this forum, is that we Aspies are the "normal" here, and it's wonderful to have a place where we fit in. You'll find a lot of information and support here, and I look forward to getting to know you.
 
Ennabir welcome to Aspie central.

Was your differculty with introduction putting thoughts into words. Many of use here have the same problem, I learned that I am a visual thinker.
I am 48 to so you are not alone, there is a wide range of ages here.
 
Hi :)

MoCoffee, what a nice one :smile: being normal here would be awesome. The expression is for sure bringing a smile inside me, my partner has made it clear to me that he has always seen himself as the only normal one in his life, he has traits too, I am sure. I find these things pleasurable to hear and read.

Warwick C :) yes and no, yes it is difficult to put thoughts into words, but I think that for me it is just insecurity about how to say things, not doing it the wrong way, just afraid of not being accepted - just about not daring and being confused and also unable to decide what to say, as well as writing takes sometimes a loooooong time. I don't think it works so much in a visual way for me, also I am still getting to know what my aspie traits are - cannot ask my parents about my childhood much for instance, for for some reason they both seem to be repressing a lot. I am writing things down at the moment and I think that might help me to understand more after a while. Maybe it is difficult to realize even that something is in a specific way different, since one has been living with that all ones life? :smile:
 
Thats Ok Ennabir

What I ment by a visual thinker is that I see in pictures, and struggle to put thought into words.
On one of the tests I have also found I am a strong introvert as well.

I think with you writing things down and being on this forum you will start to find answers
 
Welcome to AC, Ennabir! I can most certainly relate to not being able to keep friends. I have tried again and again to keep other female friends but sooner or later they either drift away, or become so claustrophobic that I have to leave them! I am finally getting to the place where I have given up. I sometimes long for someone to chat "girl talk" with, but there is usually a bittersweet ending to it.
 
Thank you all for the welcomes :smile:

I go to search stuff about friendships now... at the moment figuring out what my Aspie traits are in that.
 

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