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Hi all,
my names Chris.
been on the spectrum since a baby. Always wanted to be alone and hated talking to ppl, i was severely socially anxious since even 1 years old. couldnt look ppl in the eye, figure out what kind of facial expressions i need to make or do anything like that. would isolate my self through teen years. have exhibited antisocial behavior for a long time. however, 25 now. i struggled with females a lot, the connection part that is. forming a connection with a woman was a big struggle to me. last year i set out to make my goal to sleep with 10 women. it was a big goal, i only had been with 1 prior to that, but i was able to be with 12 women last year, so i achieved my goal and i am very pleased with that. i want to learn more about how to overcome this problem of autism. im still working on my people skills, im getting better daily. im working on becoming more charismatic and a better people person. it is a constant struggle every day to deal with ppl/strangers.

i learnt to connect with women and make them want to have sex with me through reading many books and watching youtube videos on the art of seduction.

i am wanting to add ppl on discord and have a chat about self improvement more so than anyhing else. if this is inapropriate stuff that im saying then dont hesitate to ban me or censor some stuff i said in this thread. nice to meet u all, and looking forward to becoming a permenant member here.

my discord is: Yokez#3076

-Chris
 
Welcome to the forums. As to your goal, I don't know what to say about it.. I would never make a goal like that personally. To each their own I guess.
 
Major Tom said:
Welcome to the forums. As to your goal, I don't know what to say about it.. I would never make a goal like that personally. To each their own I guess.
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thanks bro, i appreciate the welcome. its good to join this welcoming forum. yes it may seem like a funny goal, but its been a big deal to me for a while. as i said earlier, dont hesitate to add me on discord. always happy to meet new buddies who share the same passion as me
 
Little taken back by that goal, but you are your own best PR agent and may you move on to see woman as more then just someone with no other function except to make you feel better.
 
Your goal sort of dovetails with my goal is to add 10 truly worthy people to my ignore list this year. Thanks, only 9 to go.
 
Tom said:
Your goal sort of dovetails with my goal is to add 10 truly worthy people to my ignor list this year. Thanks, only 9 to go.
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Haha... You are hilarious! I've surpassed that goal this year already, but that's because I hang in the chat room a lot.
 
I have been this forum for two years and just now realized that @Tom, whose avatar I see frequently here, and @Major Tom, are two separate people.

Sorry I can’t contribute more to the conversation. I need to spend some time absorbing my discovery.
 
Welcome to the forums Hey_all
That seems an odd goal. If you're good at it why not go for a score of 100?
There are a lot of meet and greet establishments for that purpose only.
They feature the midnight rush, 2 am scramble and the 3 O'clock desperation hour.
Remember the girls all get prettier at closing time!

Hope you enjoy it here. Your intro is U-neek! :D
 
Hey_all said:
Hi all,
my names Chris.
been on the spectrum since a baby. Always wanted to be alone and hated talking to ppl, i was severely socially anxious since even 1 years old. couldnt look ppl in the eye, figure out what kind of facial expressions i need to make or do anything like that. would isolate my self through teen years. have exhibited antisocial behavior for a long time. however, 25 now. i struggled with females a lot, the connection part that is. forming a connection with a woman was a big struggle to me. last year i set out to make my goal to sleep with 10 women. it was a big goal, i only had been with 1 prior to that, but i was able to be with 12 women last year, so i achieved my goal and i am very pleased with that. i want to learn more about how to overcome this problem of autism. im still working on my people skills, im getting better daily. im working on becoming more charismatic and a better people person. it is a constant struggle every day to deal with ppl/strangers.

i learnt to connect with women and make them want to have sex with me through reading many books and watching youtube videos on the art of seduction.

i am wanting to add ppl on discord and have a chat about self improvement more so than anyhing else. if this is inapropriate stuff that im saying then dont hesitate to ban me or censor some stuff i said in this thread. nice to meet u all, and looking forward to becoming a permenant member here.

my discord is: Yokez#3076

-Chris
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Welcome, and congrats on achieving your goal!

I am an old timer, and have been married the past 28 years, so I have been curious since reading your intro a few days ago.

Are there any particilar attributes (personality, looks, etc.) that you look for in connecting with these women? Do you look for a particilar type of woman to connect with? Also, how do you meet them?
 
Rasputin said:
Welcome, and congrats on achieving your goal!

I am an old timer, and have been married the past 28 years, so I have been curious since reading your intro a few days ago.

Are there any particilar attributes (personality, looks, etc.) that you look for in connecting with these women? Do you look for a particilar type of woman to connect with? Also, how do you meet them?
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hey bro, thanks for ur judgement free reply. a lot of ppl get jealous and hate on ppl tryina chase their goals, so they feel they have no choice but to put them down. i appreciate your honest fascination with my quest and how youre coming from a place of objectivity more so than anything.

i like easy going women who i can connect with on a personal level. ive been with women who theres zero chesmitry with and been with women that theres lots of chemistry with and ik which i would choose, the chemistry of course. a woman with a good sense of humor is my #1 favorite attribute then their looks #2. she doesnt have to be extremely beautiful. i will meet women in an organic way, meet them at the bus stop, methadone clinics, outside rehabs or even at a library. or sometimes i go to dog parks where they walk their dogs and strike up conversation about what breed their dog is and then springboard from there. i do have autism, that is clear as day but it seems i have applied a formula that works in seducing women. i feel i can connect with women better than my non autistic contemporaries which is an insane accomplishment for me. i am not by any means objectifying women or using them for my happiness. i feel socializing is very good for autistic ppl and that is where we can feel alienated.

also i wanna say thank u for the welcome from everyone who is non judgemental here, i have faced judgement my entire life for my parciular ways so its NOTHING new to me...and i am sure ALOT of u have faced unfair judgement. so why put me through the same thing when u have experienced this feeling of alienation. when u point a finger at someone blaming them, ur pointing 3 more at ur self. its cliche, but its very true. just because u dont agree with my lifestyle of socializing with beautiful women, u dont need to tell me i am suitiable to be ignored, that is so unfair and tbh u lack the ability to identify nuance... we are all different in our own beautiful ways, we partake in things that others may not prefer, but does thta really warrant us to be blocked out from others life?

i dont agree with ppl being vegans, but its their choice and i wouldnt block/ignore someone for that very reason. i dont agree with many things, but if ur going to block someone out just because of that, u will never grow as a person and u will only surround ur self with people who enforce ur own limiting beliefs. i think it is good to meet as many different people as possible... variety is the spice of life after all...
 
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Hey_all said:
hey bro, thanks for ur judgement free reply. a lot of ppl get jealous and hate on ppl tryina chase their goals, so they feel they have no choice but to put them down. i appreciate your honest fascination with my quest and how youre coming from a place of objectivity more so than anything.

i like easy going women who i can connect with on a personal level. ive been with women who theres zero chesmitry with and been with women that theres lots of chemistry with and ik which i would choose, the chemistry of course. a woman with a good sense of humor is my #1 favorite attribute then their looks #2. she doesnt have to be extremely beautiful. i will meet women in an organic way, meet them at the bus stop, methadone clinics, outside rehabs or even at a library. or sometimes i go to dog parks where they walk their dogs and strike up conversation about what breed their dog is and then springboard from there. i do have autism, that is clear as day but it seems i have applied a formula that works in seducing women. i feel i can connect with women better than my non autistic contemporaries which is an insane accomplishment for me. i am not by any means objectifying women or using them for my happiness. i feel socializing is very good for autistic ppl and that is where we can feel alienated.

also i wanna say thank u for the welcome from everyone who is non judgemental here, i have faced judgement my entire life for my parciular ways so its NOTHING new to me...and i am sure ALOT of u have faced unfair judgement. so why put me through the same thing when u have experienced this feeling of alienation. when u point a finger at someone blaming them, ur pointing 3 more at ur self. its cliche, but its very true. just because u dont agree with my lifestyle of socializing with beautiful women, u dont need to tell me i am suitiable to be ignored, that is so unfair and tbh u lack the ability to identify nuance... we are all different in our own beautiful ways, we partake in things that others may not prefer, but does thta really warrant us to be blocked out from others life?

i dont agree with ppl being vegans, but its their choice and i wouldnt block/ignore someone for that very reason. i dont agree with many things, but if ur going to block someone out just because of that, u will never grow as a person and u will only surround ur self with people who enforce ur own limiting beliefs. i think it is good to meet as many different people as possible... variety is the spice of life after all...
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Chris, my view is that the choices made between consenting adults is their business. However, I would suggest using some discretion to protect yourself, and also be honest with these women as you are being honest here. Honesty is one of the qualities that I find admirable.

It is interesting that some people with social anxiety can overcome anxiety in response to sexual attraction. I had difficulty overcoming anxiety to even talk to a young woman until I was your age, but I had decent looks and like you found that I could interact with women with ease. In fact, I met my wife at a social event at a bar in which she and her friends from work went out for drinks. I made friends with a few of her friends before my wife and I ever connected. I was there at the bar by myself with the goal of meeting someone, and considering we have been together 28 years I was successful.

Now as far as male friends go, I have had no more than 3-5 close male friends in 61 years. I was very close to a best friend who passed away four years ago, but he was very authentic and trustworthy. So without judging, I would just like for you to be honest with yourself and strive to be authentic. Not everyone will like you, but if you are authentic you will connect with people who you want to be with.

Once again welcome to this Forum. I hope you make friends and enjoy interacting with it's members.
 
Nervous Rex said:
I have been this forum for two years and just now realized that @Tom, whose avatar I see frequently here, and @Major Tom, are two separate people.

Sorry I can’t contribute more to the conversation. I need to spend some time absorbing my discovery.
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("Minor" Tom would have created some self-esteem issues...)
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