Heyo! (Or whatever suitable greeting works)

[VioletHaze_03]

My name is cara, and i am new(ish) to this site. I realize that this post is a bit late, i did get a bit distracted. So, a bit about myself. I came here after fallout with an NT friend. They didn't want to talk to me again after i tried to explain my condition. I have nld (nonverbal learning disorder) which is very close to Aspergers. I also have social anxiety and ADD/ADHD. All of these make my life very difficult, and i can only imagine how awful my social skills look from the outside. The day i signed up, i was in tears. My friend told me i needed to stop using my disorder as a crutch for social mistakes, and start trying to get better. If i didn't, she didn't have time for people like me. Since there was no forum for nld support, i came here. All of you seem like very supportive people, and i am enjoying my time here so far. I hope this will (finally) be a place i can freely express myself without being shunned or picked on. Sorry if i went on too long.

 

[Danny 74]

Express yourself anyway you want my dear..... Hello to you.... !

 

[Mary Terry]

Hey, Cara! I'm NT and I visit this site because I have a non-verbal Aspie nephew who cannot post here himself due to his limitations (he cannot "volunteer" words in speech or writing), and because I tutor high school level autistic students, so I learn a lot here. Some NTs are very ignorant about issues like you describe, and some NTs virtually devote their lives to caring about and for people on the autistic spectrum. This is a good place to find companionship and acceptance. I'm glad you are here!

 

[VioletHaze_03]

Hey, Cara! I'm NT and I visit this site because I have a non-verbal Aspie nephew who cannot post here himself due to his limitations (he cannot "volunteer" words in speech or writing), and because I tutor high school level autistic students, so I learn a lot here. Some NTs are very ignorant about issues like you describe, and some NTs virtually devote their lives to caring about and for people on the autistic spectrum. This is a good place to find companionship and acceptance. I'm glad you are here!

Thank you, i find it much easier to talk on places like this rather than forums for kids my age. I was apprehensive about making this post, as my anxiety transfers to the virtual world as well. Thank you for the warm welcome!

 

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[xudo]

Welcome

 

[Nitro]

 

[Southern Discomfort]

Welcome!

I like to think of NVLD as a brother from another mother. There's similarities, sometimes the opposite to those similarities (if that makes sense) but our problems are, in essence, the same.

No, frankly this person doesn't understand that a condition cannot be forgotten about and finding ways around it aren't always possible. For example, someone with one leg might get a wheelchair to move around but they still can't walk.

This person needs some knowledge dropped on them as they clearly don't understand that it's like to have something like that. Very insensitive people. I hate to use this phrase but this person needs to check their privileges.

You are who you are, if you can't find a way around problems then you have to accept them for what they are.

 

[Warmheart]

Heartfelt welcome to AC!

 

[toothless]

hi cara,it doesnt matter what label you have,people will welcome you here.
i am not aspie,i have so called 'low functioning autism' and as a result have mild intellectual disability and was non verbal until my late twenties,i still suffer a lot of issues with my speech and using language verbally,most people here accept and support me, thats all you need-acceptance.
people dont have to understand what its like for you to accept and support you,i hope you will get the same treatment as the rest of us here, NLD could actually just be a different presentation of aspergers as opposed to being a different condition-you never know, theres not been enough research yet on it.

 

[Lady Penelope]

Happy you feel comfortable enough to post.
Hope you find a place here which brings you peace.

 

[Keigan]

Welcome, we all have amazing characteristics that make us unique.

 

[Myrtonos]

Hey, Cara! I'm NT and I visit this site because I have a non-verbal Aspie nephew who cannot post here himself due to his limitations (he cannot "volunteer" words in speech or writing

Did you mean non-verbal Autistic, which is quite different from a real aspie? Real aspies have Asperger's, not Kanner's, and they are always verbal, and don't have late speech development.

 

[bbc-bananasplit]

Hi, Cara =)) I feel with you... seriously. especially the part of improving social skills and not quite knowing how to.. That is really sad how your friend treated you. No wonder you were in tears!... but please cheer up now! =)

 

[VioletHaze_03]

Hi, Cara =)) I feel with you... seriously. especially the part of improving social skills and not quite knowing how to.. That is really sad how your friend treated you. No wonder you were in tears!... but please cheer up now! =)

Thank you, i was actually quite nervous about posting anything on this site, but because of all the kind and positive responses that isn't a problem anymore.

 

[Myrtonos]

Since what you have is not Aspergers but pretty close, do you still have any special interests?

 

[VioletHaze_03]

Since what you have is not Aspergers but pretty close, do you still have any special interests?

Not exactly special, but i enjoy anime, drawing, writing, and gaming.

 

[Sabrina]

My name is cara, and i am new(ish) to this site. I realize that this post is a bit late, i did get a bit distracted. So, a bit about myself. I came here after fallout with an NT friend. They didn't want to talk to me again after i tried to explain my condition. I have nld (nonverbal learning disorder) which is very close to Aspergers. I also have social anxiety and ADD/ADHD. All of these make my life very difficult, and i can only imagine how awful my social skills look from the outside. The day i signed up, i was in tears. My friend told me i needed to stop using my disorder as a crutch for social mistakes, and start trying to get better. If i didn't, she didn't have time for people like me. Since there was no forum for nld support, i came here. All of you seem like very supportive people, and i am enjoying my time here so far. I hope this will (finally) be a place i can freely express myself without being shunned or picked on. Sorry if i went on too long.

Very late in life (very recently) I learned that "I" can choose the people that I want to share my life with. You can do it too: you deserve to be loved, and if someone is bringing you more pain than joy (unless it's your own kid) you can cut that relationship. You are so young, that's awesome. It's a cliche, but I really wish I knew that when I was younger. Don't loose your time with people that don't value you.

 

[Rocco]

Welcome aboard