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Hi everyone, i've just joined tonight & wanted to introduce myself

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Aspie Mum

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I am 40 years old & was diagnosed with asperger's at the age of 33. I took the diagnosis pretty hard tbh as i'd lived my life for 33 years thinking I was normal to be told that it was me that had the problem not everyone else which is what I thought & it came as quite a shook.

I had suffered from depression/anxiety for a number of years & medication had never really helped so it did all kind of make sense even if it wasn't what I wanted to hear.

My main problem is controlling my emotions, when I get angry or upset I completely lose control & I hate feeling the way I do. I thought i'd get better as I got older but tbh I think i'm actually getting worse.

Does anyone else still have issues controlling their emotions & how do you deal with yours?
 
Welcome Aspie Mum. I hope that you find AspiesCentral a friendly and supportive place.

I, like you was diagnosed later in life (38) and I too struggled a little to come to terms with it. I had struggled through 10 years in a difficult marriage to a wife whom I thought was far too emotional, demanding and angry. We are still working through what my diagnosis really means to us. Things are still far from easy.

I too found my emotions difficult to control for years when I felt my wife was being unreasonable - which was quite often. This of course didn't help our relationship. I can't write more now but would be happy to later if you like.
 
Jesse said:
Welcome Aspie Mum. I hope that you find AspiesCentral a friendly and supportive place.

I, like you was diagnosed later in life (38) and I too struggled a little to come to terms with it. I had struggled through 10 years in a difficult marriage to a wife whom I thought was far too emotional, demanding and angry. We are still working through what my diagnosis really means to us. Things are still far from easy.

I too found my emotions difficult to control for years when I felt my wife was being unreasonable - which was quite often. This of course didn't help our relationship. I can't write more now but would be happy to later if you like.
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Hi Jesse, thank you, I'd love to speak some more sometime.

I was married myself for 10 years although we split in 2006 & are now divorced. I seem to be able to get into relationships fine, obviously my aspergers doesn't show straight away & i'm mistaken for NT but I find being in a relationship & particularly living with someone very difficult. I seem to have a low tolerance & people seem to annoy me too much, I obviously annoy them too although i'm never quite sure why. I've been living with my new partner for 4 1/2 years now & I feel emotionally drained. We argue a lot, he doesn't understand me & I don't understand him. I want to go to counselling but he thinks they will just blame everything on me due to my aspergers, he seems to think it's a get ou clause that we all use so that we don't get the blame for anything.

I've never met anyone else with aspergers & would love to know which parts of me are really me & which parts are the aspergers. Does anyone else ever feel like that?
 
Welcome Aspie Mum. I'm an Aspie & a mother as well & didn't realize that this is what I was until adulthood. I knew that I was unlike other girls, teens & women but there was never a name for it.

As for the emotions thing, I'm kind of the opposite sort of Aspie: my emotions are dulled, transient, superficial & mostly absent. Most of the time, my feelings are more like thoughts. I hope you enjoy being a member here. We are a tightly knit yet extremely inclusive community.
 
Soup said:
Welcome Aspie Mum. I'm an Aspie & a mother as well & didn't realize that this is what I was until adulthood. I knew that I was unlike other girls, teens & women but there was never a name for it.

As for the emotions thing, I'm kind of the opposite sort of Aspie: my emotions are dulled, transient, superficial & mostly absent. Most of the time, my feelings are more like thoughts. I hope you enjoy being a member here. We are a tightly knit yet extremely inclusive community.
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Thank you, i'm looking forward to meeting you all.
 
Hi and welcome ^^

I have problems with controlling my emotions, but mostly sadness and anxiety and not anger... well I have problem with anger but that problem is that I've been told that anger is bad and a "sinful" (not the exact words, my interpretation) feeling. So instead I repress my anger, which leads to that 1-3 times a year the anger bucket gets full and I explode (which is a very loud and quick thing and I have never hurted anyone and the only thing that have broken is a couple of eggs). Actually I tend to put my feelings inwards instead of showing them, which partly have lead to salf-harming behaviour at an fairly early age (I don't count the autistic stereotypic self-harm here). Well yes, now I know how to write about my feelings... I'm extremely sensitive but don't show them (for different reasons) so people think I'm cold when I'm actually the opposite.

I hope I didn't confuse you now :$
 
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