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Hi. I'm new. Is this how to introduce myself?

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Luvvinim

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Not sure what I'm meant to do. It said 'Just say hi' but didn't say how or where to do it. To be honest the ads are cluttering everything up and very distracting.

Hi. I'm new. I'm NT but feel I need to understand AS a lot more as I am falling for a lovely guy who I strongly suspect has AS and just want to know how to love him properly and not do what he won't want. It's hard to ask him cos he isn't a great communicator and please don't say that was offensive of me. It's just stating a fact. Have been on another forum and have been called offensive when I really wasn't. I am trying to find my way around the AS condition and actually I need sensitive guidance, not angry criticism. Thanks.

Now, this is so very difficult. I have typed my post. Now what do I do to post it? There is no 'submit' button.
 
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There are loads of articles on neuro typicals who fall in love with aspie men,try to find a book on how a man with aspergers syndrome socialise,women with Asperger's syndrome react differently to men.
One theme that seems common to all posts is the men were kind - so try putting in in the search box kindness or vulnerable .
Welcome
 
Welcome to AC. This is a very welcoming, friendly, supportive and helpful site. I am an NT and have felt very supported here.
 
Best advice I can give is to be direct. Tell him that you want, tell him what you think. Don't expect him to "take a hint" or read subtle cues.
 
Welcome to AC. You do bring up a point that can color the whole equation. Whether or not he himself is self-aware of his being on the spectrum of autism.

His choice of not telling you is his alone. However if he is utterly unaware or in denial in whole or in part that poses a whole different set of issues for which intervention on your part may not be advisable IMO.
 
Luvvinim said:
It's hard to ask him cos he isn't a great communicator and please don't say that was offensive of me. It's just stating a fact.
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Why does it not surprise me that someone got offended over that? The autism community can be like treading on eggshells in some cases, that bothers me.
 
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