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[Alex 25]

Hi, I've had lifelong issues socialising and earlier this year was given an unofficial aspergers diagnosis. I just ended a 2 year relationship, feeling low, looking for some help and guidance on my diagnosis to see if I can improve my life particularly now I'm single again. No pressure then

 

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[Wolfnox]

Hello.

 

[Shenandoah]

Hi, I've had lifelong issues socialising and earlier this year was given an unofficial aspergers diagnosis. I just ended a 2 year relationship, feeling low, looking for some help and guidance on my diagnosis to see if I can improve my life particularly now I'm single again. No pressure then

Welcome.
Look at it this way. The relationship wasn't going to survive probably, better to move on than let it fester for 10 years. Upwards and onwards from here. You're gonna be alright.

 

[Isadoorian]

Welcome to the Forums! I hope you make new friends and enjoy your stay in the process!

 

[Nitro]

Hi Alex

 

[Streetwise]

Hi, I've had lifelong issues socialising and earlier this year was given an unofficial aspergers diagnosis. I just ended a 2 year relationship, feeling low, looking for some help and guidance on my diagnosis to see if I can improve my life particularly now I'm single again. No pressure then

you should go to the love ,dating and relationships section on the forum, what you’re talking about is discussed a lot.My needs are very clear to me ,I want the relationship I had with my mother you may find the person you’re looking for in the area you are very interested in.

 

[Raphael Outcast]

Hi, I've had lifelong issues socialising and earlier this year was given an unofficial Asperger's diagnosis. I just ended a 2 year relationship, feeling low, looking for some help and guidance on my diagnosis to see if I can improve my life particularly now I'm single again. No pressure then

Is there any way you can get an official diagnosis? My respect for the mental health profession is pretty low and the diagnostic process can be quite slapdash, but even so, and having suspected for nearly two decades before I got my Asperger's diagnosis that I must be on the autism spectrum, when they told me (at the age of 41) that I did have A.S.D. all along, it was life-changing: it enabled me to start making sense of the past, and adjusting to the present, and amending my expectations for the future; it took a lot of self-imposed pressure off.

Most of the diagnostic report was rubbish, to be fair, but the bits that weren't rubbish were extremely illuminating and have continued to be of help to me in navigating (or prudently avoiding) situations that I simply wasn't built to be able to handle.

The diagnosis is not a licence for bad behaviour, but it can excuse and justify the fact that you can't cope with something or aren't good at something, and it can also point you in the direction of stuff you're actually good at. So although sometimes a psychiatric diagnosis isn't worth the paper it's typed on, I would advocate getting an A.S.D. diagnosis; getting mine was probably the single most useful thing I've ever done.

 

[Bolletje]

Welcome!

 

[George Newman]

Welcome to Autismforums.com, Alex 25.