Hi! NT Wife here!

[jadason752]

Hello, I am NT wife to an amazing man. He was just dx 1.5 year ago. I urged him to see a Dr. for his anxiety issues which he did and we came out with more understanding from an Aspergers diagnosis than could have ever hoped for. He said to me a few months back that he always felt there was something wrong with him, like he was evil or bad because he didn't fit in. And that knowing it is and has been Aspergers all along has given him relief. That statement almost broke my heart and made me so happy at the same time. I was sad because he felt so broken for so long and happy because he finally found some understanding. I am reaching out to your community because I have come to know that it is me that needs to learn about his brain more than ever and it is really difficult to do on my own. I talk to him often but don't want to overload him too much as he works ALOT and needs his down/quite time. I do stress him out and just want a place that I can learn without overloading him. I tried to join some forums for spouses but found those forums very bleak and not helpful at all. I love my husband and we have more good days than bad. I think now all we need is community and am hoping to find that here for the both of us I am hoping as well there may be other spouses/relatives on here too that I can talk with. Thanks!!

 

[Sass]

Welcome

You'll find a lot of great people here, and we're all really supportive and happy to help where we can. I'm married to an NT myself, so I can relate to having to learn things about eachother's wiring in order to communicate well.

 

[Vanilla]

Welcome

That's great that you're here to support your husband. I can understand his prior concern, that he had felt that he was broken. Many Aspies tend to struggle with such worries, before learning the truth. This community is a rather friendly, and helpful one, and we have both Aspie, and NT, members, so I hope that you're able to find the answers that you need. I've included a few links below, which you may want to explore, too. I hope they're helpful to you.

Resources: Autism & Asperger's Resources | AspiesCentral.com

Tony Attwood:

Home

The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome | AspiesCentral.com

AS-NT Relationships:

Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome | AspiesCentral.com

The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) | AspiesCentral.com

22 Things a Woman Must Know: If She Loves a Man With Asperger's Syndrome | AspiesCentral.com

Different Together Community For Partners of People Affected by Asperger Syndrome

 

[HDLSeanWiley]

hello there!

 

[Cerulean]

Welcome, it is wonderful you're looking for ways to be supportive to your husband, I hope you find some helpful information here

 

[jadason752]

Thanks everyone!

 

[Aspergirl4hire]

A thousand times welcome. One of the things I appreciate about this forum is the NT members, who hang out and help represent the points of view that I sometimes can't quite wrap my head around. I'm glad you're here.

 

[Jess]

Warmest of welcomes I think it's wonderful that you are so supportive of your husband, reaching out to learn more about this life altering diagnosis. While I was born female, and female ASD traits manifest differently than in males, many of the general characteristics are the same. I would be so happy to talk with you and answer any questions you may have. I hope you find what you need here on these forums.