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[Grace13mom]

I'm the mother of Grace13 and decided to join the site in hopes of getting some advice and understanding. My 13 year old daughter is diagnosed with Asperger's and I'm pretty certain that my mother, aunts, and grandmother have or had it as well. So this certainly seems to run in families. My daughter also has Adhd as does my youngest son... And quite possibly my other two children as well?! I've spoken to many specialists and read many articles about Asperger's, but sometimes the best information comes from people in similar situations. I'm living in Norway, but I'm from the USA originally. So, I also enjoy and miss conversations in English .

 

[Harrison]

Welcome to AC, I'm sure you will find both support and advice here. Please check out our resource section for a raft of books etc that may help you.

Enjoy your stay.

 

[Nitro]

I agree with Harrison54
Welcome to AspiesCentral

 

[DogwoodTree]

Welcome. My oldest DD is about to turn 13...she has aspie-like characteristics, but we haven't seen a need for a dx because it's more personality quirks that it is difficult behaviors.

I hope you can find some of the support you need here, both you and your daughter.

 

[watersprite]

Welcome Grace13mom.

 

[Aspergirl4hire]

Welcome, grace13Mom! We'd love for you to join the conversation. As a daughter and a mom, I can relate to the "suspected aspie" genetic component. I'm the only member of my family of origin to recognize it. I deeply admire your willingness to engage! Looking forward to seeing you around in the conversation threads.

 

[Tom]

I like that one of the symbols of autism is the puzzle pieces. It really is like a puzzle figuring things out. Like if you have it, what it is and means. It often affects multiple people in family groups.

 

[Grace13mom]

Yes it is a giant puzzle. Noone is alike and no solution is right for everyone. Sometimes I wish it was a bit simpler and came with a user's manual.

 

[Spiller]

Hey Grace13Mom, it's good to see you here and may I say you have a lovely daughter.
I suspect that my 10 yr old son may have AS traits, especially as I'm the only member of his family that seems to 'get' him.. maybe we just speak the same language.
I shouldn't wonder that you'll get a lot out of being a member here and I look forward to chatting to you and Grace

 

[Stik]

Yes it is a giant puzzle. Noone is alike and no solution is right for everyone. Sometimes I wish it was a bit simpler and came with a user's manual.

Hello, I'm amused by this because I was just thinking of handing my boyfriend the book Aspergirls and say here is my manual. I just read the book for the first time and wish I had it when I was younger. Maybe the world wouldn't be so scary if I knew these things when I was younger. It is by no means a complete manual, but a great start.

I praise you for doing what you can to help your daughter.

 

[Tom]

Yes it is a giant puzzle. Noone is alike and no solution is right for everyone. Sometimes I wish it was a bit simpler and came with a user's manual.

It is really true that there is very little you can stereotype about Aspergers and Autisms. Most of us share some tendencies, but what we do with those varies immensely.

These tendencies often give us a different set of reasons and motivations from the general population, and is one of the main causes, I think, of misunderstandings and friction between AS and NT.

Getting to the reasons why a person with Aspergers acts or reacts in certain ways, what their thought processes are, can really be helpful and avoid much frustration.

 

[Grace13mom]

Hello, I'm amused by this because I was just thinking of handing my boyfriend the book Aspergirls and say here is my manual. I just read the book for the first time and wish I had it when I was younger. Maybe the world wouldn't be so scary if I knew these things when I was younger. It is by no means a complete manual, but a great start.

I praise you for doing what you can to help your daughter.

Oh thank you! I've not read this book, so I'll have to look it up!

 

[Grace13mom]

It is really true that there is very little you can stereotype about Aspergers and Autisms. Most of us share some tendencies, but what we do with those varies immensely.

These tendencies often give us a different set of reasons and motivations from the general population, and is one of the main causes, I think, of misunderstandings and friction between AS and NT.

Getting to the reasons why a person with Aspergers acts or reacts in certain ways, what their thought processes are, can really be helpful and avoid much frustration.

I guess right now I'm not so sure as to what starts or better yet stops these adolescent meltdowns my daughter is having. I'm trying to be patient and understanding, but at the same time I've also got to set rules and boundaries. Lately I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.

 

[Greg]

Welcome.

 

[Tom]

I guess right now I'm not so sure as to what starts or better yet stops these adolescent meltdowns my daughter is having. I'm trying to be patient and understanding, but at the same time I've also got to set rules and boundaries. Lately I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.

Aspergers and Adolescence... and Bears! Oh My!

 

[Vanilla]

Welcome Grace

I'd like to recommend these resources in particular. You'll find too, that there are generally differences in typical traits, between male and female Aspies, which is why I've added resources, for women.

AS for women:

Day 62: Females with Asperger’s Syndrome (Non-Official) Checklist | Everyday Asperger's

Aspergirls: Empowering Females With Asperger Syndrome | AspiesCentral.com

Tony Attwood (I recommend a YouTube search of him too):

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The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome | AspiesCentral.com