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How are you dealing with the holidays?

Warmheart

Warmheart

Something nerdy this way comes
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For me, the positives are the pretty decorations, and seeing people happy. LOVE that!
I am very challenged with increased socializing, surprises of any kind, changes in routine, expectations which I cannot understand nor meet, and different foods.
My holidays will be spent quietly at home with my dog and cat, a very happy way to spend the holidays! Others imagine this to be a sad thing, but to me, the solitude is warm, happy, safe, rich with beauty in simplicity.

What do you like about the holidays? What's challenging? How will you spend the holidays?

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I like listening to music at home, putting lights on the house, painting cards for a short list of favorite people, occasionally walking through town to look at lights, (I live in a very small town), making the food and baked goods I enjoy and am used to, and taking hikes on nearby beautiful trails when weather allows. I have never liked the chore of setting up and taking down the tree and lights and ornaments. Giving gifts to people: great. That happens when I think of something that someone would enjoy. Christmas now in the world seems all about the "have to" shop, buy & give the perfect gifts.
Good for you Warmheart I agree that having peace is best!
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I love Christmas and I can't wait for it to be here, as I get to see most of my family in one week. But that's part of the problem. Every time I see my cousins, we all just end up playing video games and staring at screens the whole time and we hardly ever talk to each other. It bothers me but I don't know what to do about it, as I see my cousins so little that I don't know what we would talk about even if we didn't have phones and video games.
 
:evergreen:Thank you for sharing those beautiful Christmas memories!

Cinnamon, how about getting out some fun or funny games that you have to interact to have fun and some good laughs? Pictionary is a good one, so is Mad Libs! :D
 
I am taking the time off I have from school to clean up my room, since it is horribly messy and needs a good vacuuming. It's a big job. I've got books that need to be shelved, and papers to be shredded or saved. I'm also making drawings and catching up on old episodes of Star Trek spinoffs. Have not gotten started on some of the revisions I had planned, but I've got until the ides of January or so.
 
Warmheart said:
:evergreen:Thank you for sharing those beautiful Christmas memories!

Cinnamon, how about getting out some fun or funny games that you have to interact to have fun and some good laughs? Pictionary is a good one, so is Mad Libs! :D
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Good idea! I will bring Apples to Apples, everyone loves that!
 
Since I chickened out of spending Thanksgiving with my Aunt who lives in the next state, I have agreed to spend Christmas with her. Still, it isn't something I look forward to; even though I want to see her, she will have her three grown children (my cousins with whom I rarely spent time as a child), their children, and there will of course be noise, strange foods and she has begged us to spend the night as well. Too many things at once. Yet she is my only remaining Aunt alive, the others having passed away within the past ten years. For Christmas seasons in the past, I used to get a stack of my favorite movies and watch them, while eating my favorite foods. Instead of observing Christmas, I usually celebrate Winter Solstice by lighting red and green candles and celebrating the turn of the year. I will do the same this year, and then just try to get through the holiday without melting down. I wish I weren't so much an Aspie, but only because others don't understand.
 
I'm doing fine as long as I stay in my mancave and avoid exposure, lol

I kid... it all goes past me for most part. I don't care much for it, and kinda locked it all out. And aside from some idiocy in stores with insane discounts and offers which make me shake my head I'm good.

The biggest "challenge" is a christmas dinner on the 26th. My friends wife invited me over to join them since I'm a close friend to my friend and increasingly become a better and closer friend to his wife as well. That by itself is all fine, if it wasn't for the fact that they have invited like... my friends grandfather, his mom, sister, his wifes sister and husband, mom and boyfriend and probably some other folks I forgot to mention, which makes it a 10+ people dinner at their place. These people don't really know me, nor do I know them (saw them at my friends wedding though) so it'll be a lot of people I'll have to get used to. But if that's the "worst"... I guess it could've been way worse.
 
King Oni, may the gathering turn out to be smaller and quieter than expected. Maybe the food will be good!

I somehow avoid gatherings, but others express hope that I will not be alone. This puzzles me, but somehow, I think it means they simply want me to be happy.
 
For me I wished the holidays were just normal days but alas. My parents basically force me to do so and are pretty stumped about that. My mom especially keeps hinting that she would love for me to buy some presents for the family and to say that I'm looking forward to spending Christmas, but I don't so I won't. I am a man of principles and if I say I don't want something, I'm not gonna pretend like I do xD.

Aside from the fact that I don't like it, I'm baptized but not really raised Christian so the only reason as to why we celebrate Christmas is because my family likes to overeat in front of a sparkly tree.

So yeah, I personally hope it will be over quickly, but hope that the people who do look forward to it have some very nice holidays
 
I love Christmas. It covers so much of my Aspie vibes: decorating things, it has a set date and can be miles away, it's color coordinated, with it's own specific music and symbols. There's gifts that I can wrap. There's this entire atmosphere going on everywhere. And the party with my extended family is always fun. Exhausting, but fun. The food is horrible (my aunt can't cook), but the snacks are good so I can fill up on those. We sing 12 Days of Christmas every year during dinner. And mostly it's just chatting and chatting and chatting. Though the fiancee introduced us to Cards Against Humanity which my generation loved, but our 'matriarch' the poor cook aunt banned from other parties. So this year I will bring 'I have never'.

This will be my last Christmas most likely with my family though, seeing as I will be moving continents next year. I hope to get some sort of Christmas party going next year though. However I guess it will be happening on Christmas Eve seeing as Americans prefer to spend their Christmas party with family. And the fiancee's family I seriously doubt they would come, cause they're not fun. So I shall invite friends instead.
 
Peeta, I hope the party games are enjoyable, and that your Christmas with family is a happy one. Lots of changes ahead for you! May things go very smoothly and gently.
 
Warmheart said:
For me, the positives are the pretty decorations, and seeing people happy. LOVE that!
I am very challenged with increased socializing, surprises of any kind, changes in routine, expectations which I cannot understand nor meet, and different foods.
My holidays will be spent quietly at home with my dog and cat, a very happy way to spend the holidays! Others imagine this to be a sad thing, but to me, the solitude is warm, happy, safe, rich with beauty in simplicity.

What do you like about the holidays? What's challenging? How will you spend the holidays?

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I ship Spock and Kirk! I love being with my family.. But my step-mom may have problems with me!
 
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