How do you deal with those who are vocal about petty jealousies

[Suzanne]

I am first to admit that I have a huge jealousy streak in me, that I battle with many times and feel deeply ashamed of it, and actually beg my God to help me and so, when others are very vocal about their envy streak etc, I honestly could cry and it makes me not like my species an awful lot.

I am blessed or am I? That I can read emotions, but rather too well and detect when one is not being very nice to me, but my issue is being nieve, I guess, because I fail to comprehend how they can be so nasty, when they know I struggle with things.

 

[Harrison]

I ignore them.

As a Taoist I believe I am blessed with walking the 'middle path', no extremes either way.
As I do not suffer from jealousy I chose not to be affected by those who do.

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I am first to admit that I have a huge jealousy streak in me, that I battle with many times and feel deeply ashamed of it, and actually beg my God to help me and so, when others are very vocal about their envy streak etc, I honestly could cry and it makes me not like my species an awful lot.

I am blessed or am I? That I can read emotions, but rather too well and detect when one is not being very nice to me, but my issue is being nieve, I guess, because I fail to comprehend how they can be so nasty, when they know I struggle with things.

You would have to give me a scenario of what happened for me to understand what you're meaning. I'm not understanding if you're posting a statement or if you're looking for a solution to a problem.

 

[Suzanne]

You would have to give me a scenario of what happened for me to understand what you're meaning. I'm not understanding if you're posting a statement or if you're looking for a solution to a problem.

Unfortunately, I cannot give the scenario, but my post was more in line with, how other Aspies feel and do they feel similar to me, because I know the answer already; just don't deal with the unkindness very well

 

[ZaphodsCloset]

Unfortunately, I cannot give the scenario, but my post was more in line with, how other Aspies feel and do they feel similar to me, because I know the answer already; just don't deal with the unkindness very well

Would you like a non-Aspie experience and view on this?

 

[AsheSkyler]

I ignore them.

As a Taoist I believe I am blessed with walking the 'middle path', no extremes either way.
As I do not suffer from jealousy I chose not to be affected by those who do.

I try to do the same. The middle road is so much easier than trying to pick the "right" extreme. Until one of them walks up and starts trying to take stuff out of my pockets or something. Some jealous types have no concepts of boundaries.

 

[Ylva]

I'm pretty vocal about them. When it's others, I do tend to dismiss them as irrelevant, mostly because they whine at a pitch designed to cause me pain.

That's just me, though.

 

[Suzanne]

I guess I am pretty niave, which is why it hurts so much. Unfortunately, I am not a middle ground person.

Perhaps it is because I am never vocal about my own jealousies and envies and so, it is hard to cope when others are vocal

 

[ZaphodsCloset]

Perhaps it is because I am never vocal about my own jealousies and envies and so, it is hard to cope when others are vocal

Keeping mum is you being classy. They're breaking a social rule by mindlessly running their mouths about their insecurities in a way that doesn't take responsibility the way you do.

I'd like to try saying "you know I really don't care to hear that" or something assertive. But as it is, I just stop returning calls/texts of people who do this.

 

[Tom]

Most of us have petty and not so petty flaws. Recognizing them is a big step towards self understanding. Seeing the negative aspects of jealousy in others can be a motivator to use to try and spur yourself to do better. Not to be better then them, but to feel better about yourself, more able to live with yourself so to speak.