How do you handle stress?

[joe2006]

For some reason I've never had much of a problem with being angry. I see other people get stressed out over things that would not bother me as much. Today at work we encountered a rude customer. He did not get to sit at a table that was near his group and had to sit on the other side of the restaurant. He was so angry about this he began fussing at the server for seating him too far away from his group. The manager told him that the servers decided where each person sat and he fussed at her. After they got everyone seated the manager came to the kitchen and began crying because she was so angry about the rude customer. If I had been the server being fussed at by the customer I would have just listened to him and remained calm. I usually just try to resolve the situation as quickly as possible when I am faced with something that is so stressful. So how do you deal with your stress?

 

[Gritches]

Some people have never had to handle much so they can't handle much.

Stress is a very broad term, but in terms of the type of stress set forth by your example that sort of thing wouldn't bother me too much. People are like dogs to me, and occasionally dogs bark, or crap on the floor, or chew up your shoes. You can't take it too seriously, they're just dogs after all, so I just kind of clean up the mess they made and move on like it were any other chore.

 

[Statsie]

My boss in that situation would not stand up for his employee, that stresses me

 

[Gracey]

Currently, not very well overall.

I think I fair better in life or death situations, massive amounts of ‘stress’ than I do in niggling little things.

I can cope in a massive crisis (and have to wonder if training when serving helped?)
The aftermath of the above I’ll need some down time for.

I feel the effects of stress when imagining myself in a new workplace (the memories of previous employment loom large)
I don’t quite know how to make it all different in my new workplace.
What can I change to ensure a different outcome?

The effects of that situation I would term as ‘nervous energy’ that needs to be worked off in some way.
(Currently hard landscaping my garden (again) digging and moving a fair amount of earth, by hand)

I’ve wondered off the point I wanted to make and can’t find it now.
(Rolls eyes )

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

I don’t quite know how to make it all different in my new workplace.

You got a new workplace?

 

[Progster]

I pace to calm myself down, and don't talk to people for a while.
I go outside for a walk.
I stim if I'm in a situation where I can't pace or remove myself from the situation.
I eat something, or drink herbal tea.
I do something to distract myself and keep myself busy.

 

[WereBear]

I try to get away from sensory input. If I can't, I pretend that's what I'm doing: concentrating on just one thing, for instance.

 

[Mr Allen]

If I get stressed, watch out world! Well that used to be the case, nowadays I just go on a long swear word filled rant on my Blog (link in my signature).

 

[Nervous Rex]

Stress from others: I try to remember that their actions are about them, not me. People act whatever way makes them feel better, and sometimes you're just their audience. It's not about me, and I don't have to let it affect me.

Stress from responsibilities: I do what I can with the time I have and trust that I'll have time to do the rest later. I start big assignments as early as possible, so I spend as little time as possible fearing the unknown.

Stress from myself:. I have no defense and it has driven me close to breaking down many times. I'm trying to learn to deal with it and change it. Change is hard.

 

[Gracey]

You got a new workplace?

Have messaged you a bit of a monster Mr F’
Get a brew, put your feet up and get comfy before reading

 

[tducey]

I tend to let my emotions get the better of me. A better way to handle stress is to weigh everything out. To me that's better than getting upset over what is a small thing more often than not.

 

[Hallzers]

Oh boy, I am good at this one... lots of practice!

1. St. John's Wort (one before bed, one in the morning)
2. Aerobic exercise, 30 minutes, 4x per week
3. Prayer, quiet time, reading Proverbs daily
4. Journaling, writing lists of goals
5. Writing out "what is the worst that can happen" and then just accepting it to quit worrying
6. Avoid sugar and artificial food ingredients-- eat lots of raw foods
7. Limiting sensory input, including people.

This has gotten me though having neurotypical people blow up at me for reasons I don't understand, marriage problems, lawsuits, financial crashes, loss of loved ones, screaming co-workers, threats, nasty ex-wife drama, court battles, bill collectors, taxes, bank accounts frozen, etc. I've been pushed to utter despair in the past, and the seven items above have put me back into being a positive person. That and one glass of wine at night to help relax helps a little bit.