How do you react when it's your fault?

[manca]

Every time, with every friend I had there was always something that made me end the relationship. No matter how much I liked them, loved and needed them, they were just making me too upset (various reasons) and I decided it's better to end it. No matter how much they tried to fix it, I wouldn't let it after I made the decision. They weren't part of my life anymore, it hurt at first but the hard part was making the decision and not keeping at it.

Anyway that's not what I'm asking. See it was always me who decided to end it because of something they did wrong. I'm wondering how I would react if I was on the other side. If I knew I did something wrong, that it's completely my fault and that I don't deserve to be forgiven, but at the same time I'd want to keep the relationship. Would I try everything to fix it or would I assume that as I hurt someone I don't deserve to be in their company? If the last was the case would I be able to get over it just as easy as in when I end a relationship or would it be worse?

A movie got me wondering about that. Thankfully I'm not in the situation, but I'm really interested about how I'd feel.

So, is anyone just as "grudgy" as I am and if yes how do you feel when situation goes the other way?

 

[Soup]

When I do something wrong, my response depends on a few factors such as what it was that I did, the amount of harm it caused, if it was intentional, an act of omission or inattention or actual negligence. More often than not, a simple apology is sufficient. At other times (if I've broken, damaged or lost something belonging to someone else) an apology & a repair, replacement or other form of compensation is required. Since I do not really form friendships, personal type conflicts do not exist in my reality so real knock down drag out offenses wherein bitter battles & heavily hurt feelings ensue do not happen to me.

 

[Nolan1971]

My rule of thumb has always been with any relationship friends or more to completely forgive them before I fall asleep
With the exception of my father who I took until 35 yrs old to completely forgive I could have a heated conflict with my best friend
Rich and the next day it was like it never happened.
When it is my fault I sincerely apologize and will make up for it if it is more serious.
I can very gratefully say I never lost a friend over a grudge.

 

[manca]

I don't just go and end relationship for one mistake, but when things accumulate and person starts to mean pain to me, I decide it's better to end than to try and fix it.

Like one friend forgot my birthday. She apologized, then made a surprise party and I was fine. I forgave her. But months later some other things happened completely unrelated to that and it turns out I didn't forget the birthday thing at all. After half a year of different downs I just decided it's better to end it. I'm patient with people until they don't reach the line. I don't think she was much of a friend...

 

[tree]

I feel bad and I say "I'm sorry..." for what ever it is that I am feeling sorry about.
This is what I do with humans, cats, live spiders that I want to take outside, mosquitoes that bite me and I slap,
snakes or frogs I find dead in the road and want to move out of the road.
I have apologized to plants for breaking them.

 

[Spiller]

I've always found that these things have a habit of working themselves out and the less I can worry and just accept a situation, the better the resolution in terms of the discomfort I suffer.. a true friendship just coalesced recently, I think,.. a not so good one dropped away and narry a cross word said <shrug>..
No grudges, just try to accept that things will be as they'll be - it hurts a lot less that way..