Hello, My name is María, I am from Argentina. I had a classmate at university who is an aspie. I and 3 more guys were friends with him, because he had always the patiance to help us understanding everything. Yet when we were talking outside the books who would seem lost or very quite, then at whatssapp the jokes he says are very childish and when he invited us to his b-day were like if he were turning 7 instead of 25. I started reading and found out he was an asperger. I have consulted a psichologist which he guided my friends and I how to tell him. We wouldn't dare to tell him and time passed by. He started therapy just because he can't find a job or can't keep it for more than 10 days (due to his perfectionism and therefore extreme slowliness also clumssiness) . We decided to tell him , but he consulted with the psychologist he was going to and she said : "I don't think you are, you are just childish". We asked him to go to our psychologist who specialize on autism and he confirmed it and he told him also his parents are. Yet he lied to us and told us that he isn't. He says we are confused just because he is childish.
We don't know what to do, we think we are going to put on "pause" the friendship to see if he reacts, because we think if we support his behaviour he will never admit it. I think if he admits it he can get the right orientation.
do you think stop being friends with him, will help? Is it hard to admit it?
excuse my grammar and spell mistakes (not native speaker) thanks
We don't know what to do, we think we are going to put on "pause" the friendship to see if he reacts, because we think if we support his behaviour he will never admit it. I think if he admits it he can get the right orientation.
do you think stop being friends with him, will help? Is it hard to admit it?
excuse my grammar and spell mistakes (not native speaker) thanks