"How was your day" social etiquette inquiry

[paloftoon]

There's this person who I've never met before, only online. He started asking me "How was your day?" just about everyday until I asked him to stop and be more specific about things.

I wonder if I was accidentally a bit too hard on him.

I still feel awkward about him, I don't know what it is exactly.

Like something where it would be good if he's honest with me about issues he has, but he doesn't know me well enough to talk about stuff like that.

I feel weird to be asked how was your day everyday just about, but especially by someone I've never met in-person. This individual leads an overly simple life, and I feel that his limited interests are mainly what causes his limited friendships and knowledge ironically. He doesn't seem to have much motivation to try to learn new activities/knowledge or to try to go to the gym. He talked about this organization which I decided to try yesterday and liked it. I invited him to the chapter, and his only response was that he could not go to that location. I think he doesn't feel comfortable driving in the city and can't park. His schedule seems pretty wide open, so I think he only works part time. The fact that he can't be more honest about something like that bugs me for someone who I'm considering for a friend or even something more.

Thought, questions? Thank you.

 

[Judge]

I'm afraid everyone on the spectrum must inevitably deal with that social scenario. The kind that can reflect everything from just mild aggravation to something we desperately seek to avoid.

"Fine, thank you." (Said like Dr. Martin Ellingham)

But what I'm actually thinking....well perhaps it's best not to print that.

Not an easy thing to explain to most NTs I suppose.

 

[clg114]

I'm afraid everyone on the spectrum must inevitably deal with that social scenario. The kind that can reflect everything from just mild aggravation to something we desperately seek to avoid.

"Fine, thank you." (Said like Dr. Martin Ellingham)

But what I'm actually thinking....well perhaps it's best not to print that.

Not an easy thing to explain to most NTs I suppose.

Two Aspies are walking on a sidewalk in opposite directions. As they approach each other, each says "Hi" and walks on. As they are walking away, each is thinking "I wonder what he meant by that?".

 

[garnetflower13]

It is sooo tempting to reply, "What do you care?"

 

[paloftoon]

. . .

But what I'm actually thinking....well perhaps it's best not to print that.

Not an easy thing to explain to most NTs I suppose.

For all we know, he might not be an NT! I got the feel that something might be off about him. If he lost more weight and was smarter or willing to get smarter more easily, I could see myself getting attracted to the individual. It's ashame because he seems very safe and warm. I just need to make sure he continues to understand friendship at the most.

He still contacts me, but just less frequently now which is good. If we were actually meeting up and I connected with him more, I probably wouldn't mind it so much. But since we don't level, and especially since he's ever scared to go to a new board game meetup on his own (he expects me to be there and I told him it's not feasible for me to drive out that far basically), all I can do is groan on the inside and move on.