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João Lacueva

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Hello fellow`s, im joão (good luck trying to say that), 15 yo boy that found this community by random on the internet. And i think this might actually be a good idea to create bounds. :-)
How do i use the app really? I mean, can i even log in in the app? Im having some troubles, would be great if you could help me out. And is it a good idea to use a profile pic of my own? Im kinda ashamed of beeing like this so dunno.​
 
Hello fellow`s, im joão (good luck trying to say that), 15 yo boy that found this community by random on the internet. And i think this might actually be a good idea to create bounds. :)
How do i use the app really? I mean, can i even log in in the app? Im having some troubles, would be great if you could help me out. And is it a good idea to use a profile pic of my own? Im kinda ashamed of beeing like this so dunno.​
Oh thats easy to pronouce. Throw in a few zzzz's. And shuushing sound and a ja. And .. owww. Are you from Portugal or Maderia? Absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. We are a bit different and that is our best quality
 
Welcome to the world of AC
I have the app on my phone but did not like the format so I use my pc to work this site


Hopefully you will find other who use it in our friendly helpful atmosphere
 
Oh thats easy to pronouce. Throw in a few zzzz's. And shuushing sound and a ja. And .. owww. Are you from Portugal or Maderia? Absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. We are a bit different and that is our best quality
Thank you for the word of advice. Yes, im from Portugal! I think you meant to say "Madeira". It is an autonomous region, and the archipelago name is means "wood". There is another one, Azores. That means nothing :D. How did you guess my home contry? I know not many cultures use the "~" (<---OMG i think i just invented a new smile), but is it that obvious?
 
Thank you for the word of advice. Yes, im from Portugal! I think you meant to say "Madeira". It is an autonomous region, and the archipelago name is means "wood". There is another one, Azores. That means nothing :D. How did you guess my home contry? I know not many cultures use the "~" (<---OMG i think i just invented a new smile), but is it that obvious?
I have been to Lisbon, Porto and Funchal a few times. Go Cristiano!!! Wonderful and fun people, shy people,but fun to talk too. I like shy. Lots of shushes and spitting sounds in the language.
 
I have been to Lisbon, Porto and Funchal a few times. Go Cristiano!!! Wonderful and fun people, shy people,but fun to talk too. I like shy. Lots of shushes and spitting sounds in the language.
Yeah thats what everyone says, but you dont really notice it if you grow up your entire life listening to such a rich language! Hope you`ve enjoyed your time here
 
Yeah thats what everyone says, but you dont really notice it if you grow up your entire life listening to such a rich language! Hope you`ve enjoyed your time here
Really enjoyed our entire time. Had to be very careful of your crazy drivers. Once u learn that a red light means nothing much to that on coming car, being a tourist was much safer and fun. The younger kids seem to be having much more fun than in Spain or France.
 
Really enjoyed our entire time. Had to be very careful of your crazy drivers. Once u learn that a red light means nothing much to that on coming car, being a tourist was much safer and fun. The younger kids seem to be having much more fun than in Spain or France.
Nice, glad you guys liked it! Yeah driving can be a death experience here, red light isnt safety and people yell at each other, mostly cab drivers who are known for beeing rude. Wow, this is the best forum ive ever been registed! Love the atmosphere and the people that understand my daily struggle. I hope this forum will help me to improve, in the same way i might help to improve others lifes.
 
Nice, glad you guys liked it! Yeah driving can be a death experience here, red light isnt safety and people yell at each other, mostly cab drivers who are known for beeing rude. Wow, this is the best forum ive ever been registed! Love the atmosphere and the people that understand my daily struggle. I hope this forum will help me to improve, in the same way i might help to improve others lifes.
What problems do you have that are a worse than average struggles, besides how young adults treat each other everyday?
 
What problems do you have that are a worse than average struggles, besides how young adults treat each other everyday?
I have an overall problem with speaking to people, young adults treat "normal" young adults bad enough, when it comes to me it really sucks. I read a lot, so my speach is an "adult like" speach. I cant really notice it, is somethingi cant avoid, and when im im inspired enough to go talk to someone around my age, not only i get very anxious and nervous, and somehow the act of improving social skills misses the point, but also teens have trouble understanding what im trying to say. Yeah vocabulary is a serius problem around here. In conclusion, after having no sucess in my social mission, people make fun of me for beeing weird, and that leads to more isolation. Yes i have friends, but mostly, they are all older than me (for you to get an idea, they are 18 to 64 yo, im not kidding), and when it comes to atraction, it is where i suffer the most.
Ive never dated, and all my crushes are 17 or 18 yo, and since im younger, things dont really work. I mean, ive done everything teenagers find "cool" nowadays, like starting to smoke, to see if i could get a gf of my age, and now i know that with half a brain everyone could see thats stupid and was never going to work.
I also have to listen to my parents ******** (sorry for that) complaining about my anti-socialness. Yes i have this older friends, but they are not many, and ive meet them because they where my parents friends. Im tired of hearing them saying "gf dont show up if you just stare at your pc, dummy" and i really get pissed of about it. The computer, or computer games to be exact, is kinda my getaway, its where i feel happy, and its where i have all this friends all over the world, and its where i forget my depression. So when im not in the computer, i get really sad and anxious. I guess this is all, or at least this must be the main picture. And give me a break if you find any errors, i speak english very whell, but writting harder and i sometimes do some errors.
 
Welcome :)

I use an ipad, and find I prefer the website to the app myself, but it's a personal preference really. It's up to you as to whether you feel comfortable having your face showing. If you feel concerned about putting up your own photo, feel free to use another image as your avatar.
 
Welcome :)

I use an ipad, and find I prefer the website to the app myself, but it's a personal preference really. It's up to you as to whether you feel comfortable having your face showing. If you feel concerned about putting up your own photo, feel free to use another image as your avatar.
Thank you very much :-)
 
Here's my input. We are diverse here on this site so you might get many conflicting ideas, so pick and choose. Anything that helps you.
Also, your English is beyond just good. It' s better than mine.
I know local college students who can't even complete a employment resume that makes any sence. English sucks as a language to learn to write. The few errors you have written are very minor. I probably have more. Folks on this site have excellant verbal and written skills. Don't worry.
So to help with your depression first. Being proficient with speaking English as you are is going to be such a help to secure your university of choice and later employment that you actually want and that will pay well. Your school instructors can guide you through more smoothly than most to find out what you can best accomplish.
With the economy in your country what it is, this is on all young adults minds, or you'd hope. But nope it's sex and getting f....ked up. Gotta love the 'teen years'. Don't try to be popular. Never works for us. Pick out someone u like and feel somewhat comfortable to be around and be genuinely nice. If others think you are weird now thats not going to change in the next few years. Use their social 'unskills' to learn how not to be. Girls, eee god. Good luck.lol
So you need to learn to be a good if not great ACTOR. YES, the next 50 years, 'your on stage', Aspie or not, get use to it. It's a ***** and not real healthy for your brain but you have to make a living and have a uncomplicated social/ sex(yeah) life and be happy. This is so wrong in so many ways but your stuck with a brain that others will never understand. It's a survival tactic that has kinda worked for me.
For me not knowing nothing of why I was 'anti social', as my mother would say, Iphones weren't around but my bedroom was, so that's where I went.
With you family friends around start your acting by 'being' interested in what someone is saying. Can't believe they call you 'gf' when you are gaming. Practice with strangers, maybe tourists if in that kind of area. You are young enough to get away with alot. S long as you a nice and helpful. Socializing takes practice. Socializing is acting for us.
Put the Iphone in your pocket making sure that person sees u do that and then look at them, kinda, and maybe pay attention with an approptiate reponse. They'll think you are interested in what they are saying though you're probalby not. You will get good at this as I see you are quite crafty already. This will actually help you on many levels.
Don't try this on your school mates or you'll get the **** beat out of you. They will require a different style of acting.
With your mates, stop trying to be cool and just pay attention. Pretend you're interested. Ask question about them. Aspies never think to do that 'act' and that a big problem. We look like we don't care. True but we should know better, we are smarter.
With girls, good luck. You are going to be misjudged and misjudge the rest of your life with the opposite sex, get use to it.
Forget about befriending a girl in school older than you. You need Brad Pitt skills for that and look like Cristiano and play futball flawlessly as well and have the wardrobe etc. etc. In ten years, that will be your objective though.
To make friends with your male mates in school and since you a perceived to be smarter, offer in your learned special 'acting' ways to help the nicer ones in any subjects they need help. Again be sincere, but cool sincere, u know what i mean.

We Aspies have limitations, at least limitations that NT' s think we have, but at your age and now knowing you did not cause these limitations(differences), work on them a Smart way.
You want to be accepted, but make it on your terms. And for sure dont beat yourself up on this.
School SUCKS. You have a few years to go. Don't get caught up in the Vodka frenzy your friends are doing. And don't tear down your heritage. The french kids think they are gods, the Spanish the same but have a lisp lol, Italians cook well but live with their mothers forever.
Be yourself when it counts and 'act' when it is necessary.
Too long of a reply and even I had to spellcheck.
Thank you very much bro! I shall now use this info to improve myself and restore my ego. Ive tried to do some scientifical research on the laws of atraction so i could throw a little science in the game of sedution, but had no sucess.
P.s:you seem and im shure you are a nice guy. Does this forum have an "add friend" or "private message" service so i can add you if possible?
 
Yes, there are friending (well, "following") and private message functions. Just click on someone's username and select "Follow" or "Start a Conversation."

Welcome, João!
 
Thank you very much bro! I shall now use this info to improve myself and restore my ego. Ive tried to do some scientifical research on the laws of atraction so i could throw a little science in the game of sedution, but had no sucess.
P.s:you seem and im shure you are a nice guy. Does this forum have an "add friend" or "private message" service so i can add you if possible?
Oh the game of seduction!!!!!!You've got that right. IT is a game for the Black Widow Spider all right and for a few other females out there and guess who wins?
 
Oh the game of seduction!!!!!!You've got that right. IT is a game for the Black Widow Spider all right and for a few other females out there and guess who wins?
Females take it all. Even if you "seduce" her they will just kill you after sex. Its very smart to compare females to spiders in my case because spiders scare the **** outta me. As you say chap, i better get used to it. O boy, and i was thinking it was just a phase this thing with woman.
 

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