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I can’t get my life together

Markness

Markness

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I feel so overwhelmed by life these days. My siblings continue to outpace me in everything, my control freak mother’s web is oppressing, and my attempts to change my life around just don’t ever succeed. I keep hitting walls that I can’t get around no matter how hard I apply myself. I have no goals at all because the dead ends and discouragements I get are too much. I’ve been told I need to hit rock bottom before my life can improve but I don’t understand that logic at all. I’ve been in an unhappy and hopeless state since 2006 so how would my life situation becoming even worse be the solution for it?
 
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What are the most recent things you did to try to change your life around? And what are some of the walls you hit that you can't get around?
 
Fino said:
What are the most recent things you did to try to change your life around? And what are some of the walls you hit that you can't get around?
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Trying college again and putting myself out socially. I can’t write for enjoyment, practice my guitar, draw, work on the vision board, and I am socially isolated because I don’t fit in with the local culture.
 
Your measuring stick is not your siblings, nor your mother. Your objective in life is to be the best Markness that the world has seen yet, based on whatever your parameters for success are.
 
How much exercise do you get? Try getting more active, whatever ways are easy and straightforward for you, which often helps with those other issues you mention, as your interests are quite static and focussed, I can relate as mine are too. I have to get out and walk, work on our allotment, get outdoor air and inspiration.

Longer term, you would benefit from having an environment where you can be yourself at least some of the time. But first things first. Work on self care.
 
Markness said:
I can’t write for enjoyment, practice my guitar, draw, work on the vision board
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If I understand correctly based on previous threads, the reason you "can't" do these things is because of a psychological block. It's not exactly that you "can't" in the same way I "can't" fly. These are things you're capable of doing but feel that you're unable to do them. That's important to know because then you know you can actually do them as soon as you deal with the misconceptions in your mind that block them.
 
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LA is five woman to every guy.
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Sadly, I can’t move there.

Thinx said:
How much exercise do you get? Try getting more active, whatever ways are easy and straightforward for you, which often helps with those other issues you mention, as your interests are quite static and focussed, I can relate as mine are too. I have to get out and walk, work on our allotment, get outdoor air and inspiration.

Longer term, you would benefit from having an environment where you can be yourself at least some of the time. But first things first. Work on self care.
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Bad weather and failures that marked the beginning of this year have made my activity level close to zero.
 
Fino said:
If I understand correctly based on previous threads, the reason you "can't" do these things is because of a psychological block. It's not exactly that you "can't" in the same way I "can't" fly. These are things you're capable of doing but feel that you're unable to do them. That's important to know because then you know you can actually do them as soon as you deal with the misconceptions in your mind that block them.
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I don’t think so. I’ve tried certain things like crazy and sometimes until my hands hurt but I just never get past the obstacles.
 
Markness said:
Sadly, I can’t move there.

Bad weather and failures that marked the beginning of this year have made my activity level close to zero.
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So, despite bad weather or low mood, it's really important to get some exercise. Indoor exercise is fine, if that's all you can do, download a stepcounting ap and walk around your house. Do some stretching. Dance to music you like, in your own room. You need to get regular exercise.
 
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