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I Can’t Handle People

KevinMao133

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Sometimes I’m angry, most times I’m happy

Truth is I can’t handle interpersonal relationships

I admit: my personality can be quite strong at times as sometimes I can be demeaning

Still though, I don’t like disrespectful people. I don’t like those who have no regard for others

I sometimes feel like I’m the only one with my eyes open and the rest of them are zombies
 
Sometimes I’m angry, most times I’m happy

Truth is I can’t handle interpersonal relationships

I admit: my personality can be quite strong at times as sometimes I can be demeaning

Still though, I don’t like disrespectful people. I don’t like those who have no regard for others

I sometimes feel like I’m the only one with my eyes open and the rest of them are zombies
In my younger years, I would often feel this way. I didn't have the patience for what I was interpreting as "stupidity". My attitude was disrespectful, even though I couldn't stand being disrespected, myself. I would judge others for behaviors without looking at myself in the mirror and understanding how I would sometimes, hypocritically, behave the same way. I think my autistic "mind-blindness" was tricking me into thinking I knew better, when foolishly, in retrospect, I was only viewing things from my perspective, not theirs.

With age, comes some wisdom. I now know that everyone has their cognitive biases based upon their own set of "facts", in part, based upon their life experience. In other words, it is about perspective taking, for the most part.

I've turned much of this attitude around by focusing upon my role as an educator and mentor, as well as, taking pause to take in another's perspective by asking critical questions in a non-confrontational way. I often am interested in their logic, whatever that is.

Granted, there are truly stupid people out there who are much better at being dumb than you are, so no sense in trying to get into an argument. You have let that one go and move on.

Interpersonal relationships are definitely a "two-way street" with regards to effective communication, perspective taking, and mutual respect. The stress you feel with regards to "dealing with others" is often a result of your own attitude and approach to the situation you're in. It's pretty much your own doing, and not theirs, so take that little bit of knowledge and run with it. ;)
 
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