I Don’t Argue With Others

[KevinMao133]

After years of being on earth, I have learned one thing: not to argue with others

I have learned to not get involved in drama since most arguments solves nothing

Doing my own thing while keeping sanity is great for myself

Truth is distancing has helped, even though it’s not perfect

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

While I don't argue, in grad school, and especially in research and at seminars where the knives are out, I learned how to advocate for my ideas.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

After years of being on earth, I have learned one thing: not to argue with others

I have learned to not get involved in drama since most arguments solves nothing

Doing my own thing while keeping sanity is great for myself

Truth is distancing has helped, even though it’s not perfect

I hate arguing
I always like keeping the peace but do not like confrontation at all
I prefer to be at peace with others
I hate conflict
And do not understand why it chases me
That is why I am not generally mean too unless it is to do with trauma
Because I just prefer to be at peace with people even those i do not agree with
And honestly it can be hard for me as an autistic because cooperation is not always easy
I hare people too when they pressure or push me
So I always prefer to be one with others in the sense that I am myself but I keep peace.
So yes

 

[Suzanne]

I hate arguing, but sadly, married to a man who brings out the worst in me. However, when I was 5 year's old, a great injustice happend to me and I got so angry and punched a wall and it suddenly came to me, that I could do damage as an adult and thus, never attacked or punched etc. But, have used bad language and raised my voice, which often has caused a meltdown, since my inate being is a quiet person.

 

[Rodafina]

I spent so much of my life being too passive and very quiet. I am very uncomfortable with arguing, but I am trying to learn how to actually use my voice as well.

I think having discussion and differing opinions without it turning into an argument is an important skill. I am still learning. I do think that a lot of people interpret discussing different opinions as arguing, but I suppose it all depends on how you are doing it.

I take a lot more chances on that here than in my real life, where quiet is my usual state. It takes too long for me to process things (especially all the emotions) and respond in a way that I want when I am speaking to someone face-to-face. When I feel drawn into an argument with someone, I immediately shut down.

 

[Misty Avich]

Neither do I. I spent my childhood bickering with my best friends, and my adolescence and young adulthood arguing with my mother. Now I have learnt to be more passive to avoid this. But this makes it difficult to stand my ground when someone at work speaks rudely to me. But I'm scared that if I do stand my ground it might turn into an argument. Sometimes it's easier to just let people speak rudely to me.

Arguing online seems easier lol, but I'm working on avoiding that now too.