I just quit a job, should I try and get another Charity shop job?

[Mr Allen]

Topic.

As I've worked for most of the Charity shops in Hillsborough, Sheffield, I'd say no and wait to see what happens with the meeting at the Job Centre next week, but I am desperate to work, not just because I need the money, but for my own peace of mind.

They basically told me at the British Heart Foundation shop that you need to have been there ages before they let you anywhere near the till, because apparently they're THE busiest Charity shop in Hillsborough, and they didn't think I'd cope! Newsflash! I've spent the last 2 and half years working at probably THE busiest Charity shop in Broomhill, so I'm sure I could cope, but the BHF won't let me prove it so I resigned.

So anyway, should I try one of the other Charity shops in Hillsborough such as Age UK or St Luke's? I have skills in Charity shop work, having worked in 3 different Oxfam shops, and currently the PDSA.

 

[paloftoon]

Why not? I think working somewhere is better than working nowhere. Rather than quit, I would've tried to stay at that prior job first and look for another job at the same time. It looks better to transition directly from one job to another rather than quit and then find a new one if possible.

 

[Mr Allen]

Why not? I think working somewhere is better than working nowhere. Rather than quit, I would've tried to stay at that prior job first and look for another job at the same time. It looks better to transition directly from one job to another rather than quit and then find a new one if possible.

I see your point mate, but there was nothing to do at BHF that I physically could do, they wanted me to cut stuff out and stick stuff on paper, and fiddly things I can't do due to poor fine motor skills.

 

[Judge]

You sound like someone completely hung up on the notion that work defines you, whether a paying job or not. Something a great many people agonize over, often for no good reason other than to succumb to peer pressure.

Start here: You don't have to allow work to define who you are. No matter what you do- or don't do. Do something that you truly perceive you need to do in your best interest rather than what others may think.

If you truly like doing charity work for the sake of charity, then you shouldn't be picky about whatever work it is.

On the other hand, if deep down you really seek that paying job, equally you cannot likely be too picky about what such work may entail as long as you're able to do it to the satisfaction of your employers. But even if you're doing menial labor, it doesn't have to define you unless you allow it to.

 

[Mr Allen]

You sound like someone completely hung up on the notion that work defines you, whether a paying job or not. Something a great many people agonize over, often for no good reason other than to succumb to peer pressure.

Start here: You don't have to allow work to define who you are. No matter what you do- or don't do. Do something that you truly perceive you need to do in your best interest rather than what others may think.

If you truly like doing charity work for the sake of charity, then you shouldn't be picky about whatever work it is.

On the other hand, if deep down you really seek that paying job, equally you cannot likely be too picky about what such work may entail as long as you're able to do it to the satisfaction of your employers. But even if you're doing menial labor, it doesn't have to define you unless you allow it to.

Well after 15 years of criticism from Daily Fail and Telegraph readers for being a "Burden on the State" because I'm on benefits due to disability, I kind of have a desire to work, partly to shut them up, but mostly because I actually WANT to work, but the system won't let me.

 

[Judge]

Well after 15 years of criticism from Daily Fail and Telegraph readers for being a "Burden on the State" because I'm on benefits due to disability, I kind of have a desire to work, partly to shut them up, but mostly because I actually WANT to work, but the system won't let me.

I can't think of a better reason to totally reject such peer pressure. To define yourself in terms of who you are- not what the state, a political party or a newspaper think you should be.

 

[Suzanne]

Indeed you should. But make sure it is written down that you will be given a chance with the tills, otherwise you could end up being in the same situation.

Ahhh how I miss my charity shops!

 

[Suzanne]

I see your point mate, but there was nothing to do at BHF that I physically could do, they wanted me to cut stuff out and stick stuff on paper, and fiddly things I can't do due to poor fine motor skills.

So, in other words, they were prejudging you or making assumptions about you? So much for good charitable background eh?

 

[Suzanne]

I can't think of a better reason to totally reject such peer pressure. To define yourself in terms of who you are- not what the state, a political party or a newspaper think you should be.

You are not from the uk! They are being horribly harsh to disabled ones and so, if he cannot get work, then he will be stuck.

I am from the uk myself, but live in France and it has got to here, how grossily unfair they are to the disabled and this is no doubt due to the fact that ones who have families are stinging the benefits system dry and so, they need to off load a certain group of people, in order to give the money to those who do not deserve the money.

I say: good on him for trying and we should encourage; not discourage him.

 

[Judge]

You are not from the uk! They are being horribly harsh to disabled ones and so, if he cannot get work, then he will be stuck.

I am from the uk myself, but live in France and it has got to here, how grossily unfair they are to the disabled and this is no doubt due to the fact that ones who have families are stinging the benefits system dry and so, they need to off load a certain group of people, in order to give the money to those who do not deserve the money.

I say: good on him for trying and we should encourage; not discourage him.

No, I'm in the United States. Where prospective employers are horribly harsh to older people close to retirement seeking employment whether qualified or not. Largely due to the cost of health care. Being "stuck" as you call it, eventually all I could do was try to craft a living exclusively using my own resources rather sustain futile attempts to find work in a struggling, "recovering" economy where people work more for less pay and far less benefits if any.

Though we have the same prevailing political mentality here when it comes to contempt for those living on government entitlement programs. Often the same people who truly buy into this twisted notion that we are only as good as the work that we do.

It isn't a matter of discouraging him. Whether you have a job or not it's nonsense to judge yourself and others only on the work that one does. If you need and want work, find it because it's your choice and yours alone. That's all. You don't have to have a job to have dignity.

As for people being "horribly harsh" to the disabled, you might check out Cory's post. This happened here- not in the UK.

Developmentally disabled man kidnapped and tortured...livestreamed on facebook

 

[Katherine Rawstron]

At least you're prepared to work for nothing! You're doing what you can, and are trying to get paid employment, that should be enough to show that you're not a scrounger who doesn't want to work. You've even considered and applied for jobs that are probably unsuitable in your determination to do something, so you've nothing to be ashamed of. You didn't ask to be an Aspie and it's not your fault the workplace and employers are so hostile.

Unfortunately, times have changed, and jobs which people like us could probably have settled into quite comfortably a few decades ago, either no longer exist, or have morphed so much, they've become untenable for all but the toughest NT's. Add to that the zero tolerance shown to "eccentric" or "odd" behaviour in favour of uniformity, and it's no wonder some of us have difficulty getting, never mind holding down, a job.

 

[Mr Allen]

At least you're prepared to work for nothing! You're doing what you can, and are trying to get paid employment, that should be enough to show that you're not a scrounger who doesn't want to work. You've even considered and applied for jobs that are probably unsuitable in your determination to do something, so you've nothing to be ashamed of. You didn't ask to be an Aspie and it's not your fault the workplace and employers are so hostile.

Unfortunately, times have changed, and jobs which people like us could probably have settled into quite comfortably a few decades ago, either no longer exist, or have morphed so much, they've become untenable for all but the toughest NT's. Add to that the zero tolerance shown to "eccentric" or "odd" behaviour in favour of uniformity, and it's no wonder some of us have difficulty getting, never mind holding down, a job.

Working for nothing, I've been doing it for years! Must've worked in some capacity for nearly all the big local Charities and quite a few of the Nationals.

What winds me up though is that I have a 2 and half page CV detailing over 20 years of experience in retail, admin and Hospital Radio, and 10 years ago I went for a meeting with some woman from Remploy, she looked at my CV and told me to my face it was all LIES because I had no references to back it up! I looked her in the face and was literally like, WTF?! And walked out of the interview otherwise I would've blown my top.

 

[Mr Allen]

Yesterday I handed a CV in to Toys R Us and applied online to Build A Bear Workshop.

I am awaiting a phone call from the Job Centre next week about that course I enquired about on Tuesday.

 

[xudo]

Yesterday I handed a CV in to Toys R Us and applied online to Build A Bear Workshop.

I am awaiting a phone call from the Job Centre next week about that course I enquired about on Tuesday.

I hope your applications are successful. I like the build a bear workshop we have in Cardiff, but I couldn't work there and have to put up with all the kids. Last time we went past, I asked my husband if he reckoned they'd let me get in the big machine with all the filling in